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Things To Say To Your Ex Boyfriend - Leave Him Wanting More!
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Things To Say To Your Ex Boyfriend  -  Leave Him Wanting More!

You've been coming up with lists of things that you want to say to your ex boyfriend ever since you broke up. When the time actually comes, however, you seem to be stumbling over your words and every thought you had went flying out the window. Instead of hanging up on him in embarrassment, make sure you're prepared by following the below listed guidelines to steer the conversation in a positive, fulfilling direction.

Your emotional state is a lot more important than you may think. If you are holding onto resentments or frustration over the breakup, you simply need to get over it in whatever way possible. Ignore it, squash it and get it out of your mind. You can't wallow in self-pity anymore if you genuinely have feelings for this guy and you want a lasting, long-term relationship. Any unpleasant emotions are going to be apparent in what you do and what you say to your ex boyfriend- and while your ex may be oblivious to a lot of things, he won't be oblivious to that. That also means cutting out any trash-talking directed at your ex from your circle of friends. They think they're helping you but in the long run they're causing a lot more damage and it's going to eventually take its toll.

Once you've cleared your head and refocused on what's really important, your ex-boyfriend is going to immediately be aware of a change. While it may seem subtle to you, it will seem like anything but subtle to most guys - including your ex. An upbeat, happy and self-assured woman is one of the most attractive people on the planet to the large majority of the opposite sex. By exuding these traits (and meaning them) you can guarantee that you're going to be getting a lot of attention. Don't succumb to the negativity - get up and get moving. You may be pleasantly surprised at the outcome.

Whether or not your ex-boyfriend is willing to admit it, he's counting on his ability to win you back - if his other options fall short. Guys want to feel like they are wanted, just like girls do. If that underlying belief is shaken, their whole tower of self-confidence starts to crumble from the inside out. You can speed up the process by refusing any and all contact with your ex. Once he knows he can't text you out of the blue and find out who you're with and what you're doing, he's left with his own imagination - and that can be your biggest ally. The more effectively you can avoid him, the more drawn to you he'll be until he's forced to come out in the open and make a real effort to get in touch.

If you've only maintained your silence for a day or two and you suddenly get a text message from your ex-boyfriend, it's working - but now is not the time to crack. Give yourself some room to work by extending the no-contact policy for at least a few weeks. Texts and emails simply aren't going to cut it. If you want to establish a real, meaningful connection you need to actually speak and that means he has to call you. He will - it's only a matter of time.

No guy wants to believe that breaking up with their ex puts them in a bad position. Guys often think that their possibilities are limitless - until they try to go after them. Then they start to get the message that they can't really have anything or anyone whenever they want. When they realize that may extend to you, panic ensues. Getting your ex to believe that you may be out of reach is one of your biggest advantages.

Not only are you potentially out of reach, but you're busy with your own life as well. When he does decide to call you, act like he's interrupting something but not to the point of being rude. You want to keep the conversation as brief as possible without rushing him off the phone. You don't want to ooze happiness to hear from him, but you don't want to put him off by acting like it's a huge inconvenience either. Your word of the day is balance. Use it to your advantage. By allowing him to talk and mainly listening, you can avoid embarrassing verbal diarrhea and say something you don't mean or didn't mean to spill out. If he's calling you, he should have a reason. Ultimately, the conversation rests on him.

Make sure you tell your ex that hearing from him is a good thing, this is one of the things you should say to your ex boyfriend. Make yourself seem interested without overwhelming him by asking how things are going or how he's been. From there on out, the next two to three minutes are all his. This call needs to be the epitome of short and sweet, however. Allowing it to drag on is not going to be beneficial so after a few minutes, let him know you have other plans and that you really have to take off - but maybe you can speak again later.

If he presses you for a time or place to talk again, let him know that you're willing but don't set it up yourself. He may even go so far as to ask what your plans are. If he does, it's a big indication that he's not over you completely. Keep your story simple without going into detail. After you hang up, go out and do something to relax to get your mind off the phone call and refocus on the next time.

You may have not felt this confident in a long time - and your ex is feeling anything but. Take a moment to bask in the afterglow and realize what's happening in your ex-boyfriends head at this very moment. Not only is he in a bad position that he never expected to find himself in, but he's scraping the bottom of the barrel. He always thought he could go back to you if the situation called for it. Now that the situation calls for it, you seem out of reach.

Appearing unavailable and busy will make you nearly irresistible and your ex is going to take the bait. He is no longer riding on top of the world thinking he can have anything he wants. He's realizing that he wants you - but you seem to be slipping out of his grasp. That means something has to be done before you're gone completely.

Before you talk to your ex, you need to work on your self-confidence. By coming off assertive and in-control, you're not going to fall for his games anymore. The less you say, the more alluring you'll be and that's like dangling candy in front of a baby - at least in your ex's eyes.

Your Next Steps

The things you say to your ex boyfriend is crucial if you want to reunite. You also have to be aware of the no contact rule to make sure that he wants to call you and encourage continued contact. There are also some powerful get him strategies that you should be implementing to gain his attention again.

Do you want to know how he really feels about you? Then you should be on the look out for signs he still likes you. He will be subconsciously giving off signals that he doesn't even know about, you should spot them to learn the real truth.


Street Talk

bianca1  

my name is mccart i never believe in spell casting, until when i was was tempted to try it. i and my husband have been having a lot of problem living together, he will always not make me happy because he have fallen in love with another lady outside our relationship, i tried my best to make sure that my husband leave this woman but the more i talk to him the more he makes me fell sad, so my marriage is now leading to divorce because he no longer gives me attention. so with all this pain and agony, i decided to contact this spell caster to see if things can work out between me and my husband again. this spell caster who was a woman told me that my husband is really under a great spell that he have been charm by some magic, so she told me that she was going to make all things normal back. she did the spell on my husband and after 5 days my husband changed completely he even apologize with the way he treated me that he was not him self, i really thank this woman her name is Dr Aluta she have bring back my husband back to me i want you all to contact her who are having any problem related to marriage issue and relationship problem she will solve it for you. her email is traditionalspellhospital@gmail. com, she is a woman and she is great

Reply
  about 4 years ago
bianca1  

my name is mccart i never believe in spell casting, until when i was was tempted to try it. i and my husband have been having a lot of problem living together, he will always not make me happy because he have fallen in love with another lady outside our relationship, i tried my best to make sure that my husband leave this woman but the more i talk to him the more he makes me fell sad, so my marriage is now leading to divorce because he no longer gives me attention. so with all this pain and agony, i decided to contact this spell caster to see if things can work out between me and my husband again. this spell caster who was a woman told me that my husband is really under a great spell that he have been charm by some magic, so she told me that she was going to make all things normal back. she did the spell on my husband and after 5 days my husband changed completely he even apologize with the way he treated me that he was not him self, i really thank this woman her name is Dr Aluta she have bring back my husband back to me i want you all to contact her who are having any problem related to marriage issue and relationship problem she will solve it for you. her email is traditionalspellhospital@gmail. com, she is a woman and she is great

Reply
  about 4 years ago
bianca1  

my name is mccart i never believe in spell casting, until when i was was tempted to try it. i and my husband have been having a lot of problem living together, he will always not make me happy because he have fallen in love with another lady outside our relationship, i tried my best to make sure that my husband leave this woman but the more i talk to him the more he makes me fell sad, so my marriage is now leading to divorce because he no longer gives me attention. so with all this pain and agony, i decided to contact this spell caster to see if things can work out between me and my husband again. this spell caster who was a woman told me that my husband is really under a great spell that he have been charm by some magic, so she told me that she was going to make all things normal back. she did the spell on my husband and after 5 days my husband changed completely he even apologize with the way he treated me that he was not him self, i really thank this woman her name is Dr Aluta she have bring back my husband back to me i want you all to contact her who are having any problem related to marriage issue and relationship problem she will solve it for you. her email is traditionalspellhospital@gmail. com, she is a woman and she is great

Reply
  about 4 years ago
bianca1  

my name is mccart i never believe in spell casting, until when i was was tempted to try it. i and my husband have been having a lot of problem living together, he will always not make me happy because he have fallen in love with another lady outside our relationship, i tried my best to make sure that my husband leave this woman but the more i talk to him the more he makes me fell sad, so my marriage is now leading to divorce because he no longer gives me attention. so with all this pain and agony, i decided to contact this spell caster to see if things can work out between me and my husband again. this spell caster who was a woman told me that my husband is really under a great spell that he have been charm by some magic, so she told me that she was going to make all things normal back. she did the spell on my husband and after 5 days my husband changed completely he even apologize with the way he treated me that he was not him self, i really thank this woman her name is Dr Aluta she have bring back my husband back to me i want you all to contact her who are having any problem related to marriage issue and relationship problem she will solve it for you. her email is traditionalspellhospital@gmail. com, she is a woman and she is great

Reply
  about 4 years ago
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