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What To Do When Your Ex Boyfriend Contacts You
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What To Do When Your Ex Boyfriend Contacts You

When your ex boyfriend contacts you out of the blue it can come as a shock. Hopefully it is a pleasant one and the communication between you both is not stilted and hostile. It is difficult to know how to respond to his efforts at communication, especially if you weren't prepared for what to say.

Contact with your ex boyfriend is extremely important if you are hoping to get him back down the road. That is why you have to prepare yourself for his next contact. If the first time was not that great, or you think that you should have done things better, you can make up for this the next time that you speak to him. The following points are what you should keep in mind when you are talking to your ex boyfriend again, they should ensure that you don't push him away and that it is a positive experience for you both.

Remain Calm And Don't Give Too Much Away

There will be nothing more obvious to your ex boyfriend as when you are nervous. He will then know that you still have feelings for him and that he can get you back whenever he chooses. It is not realistic to ask you to pretend that you are not nervous, of course you will be. That doesn't mean that you can't do things to minimise the damage this causes. When your ex boyfriend gets in contact with you take a deep breath and settle your nerves.

If you feel like you are shaking or that your voice is trembling, let him do all the talking - he was the one that contacted you after all. If you do get a choice in whatever kind of contact you have with him, texting is a much more less intimidating option. You can take your time to think of what to say and you don't have to worry about your voice quivering. Nevertheless, you can turn a phone call into a positive experience.

He will likely want to ask you lots of questions about what you have been up to and how you are doing. If he is curious about you at all he will be full of questions. It is your job to answer him in a pleasant but concise way. The last thing that you should be doing is to be going into detail about what you have been spending your days doing. The more you tell him, the worse it is. You could let some detail slip that paints you in a negative light or tells him that you haven't been coping with the break up.

The less you say the more intriguing and mysterious you will become to him, this will in turn help you get him back. You should never just ignore him of course, or make him think that his contact is unwelcome. He will never want to make an effort again with you if you are distant and rude to him. It is a delicate balance but you can get it right. Be friendly, but not too friendly. Answer his questions with short on-topic answers. Tell him it was nice to hear from him and then make your excuses and cut the conversation short - this will leave him wanting more.

From His Perspective

Your ex may ask you what you're off to do. If he does, you can take it as a huge sign that he's still interested in you - or at least that he's not fully willing to let the relationship go. Tell him something without going into much detail. If he asks to call you again, agree to it but don't make the effort to tell him when. After the call a lot of thoughts and emotions are swirling around your head and it can be overwhelming. The best course of action is to get up and get out of the house for a while. When you come back you can replay the conversation and get prepared for the next time.

If your ex-boyfriend wasn't nervous before, he is now. The reality of the matter is that he's about to experience full-scale panic. His backup plan seems to have disappeared overnight and he's left with very few options available to him. To him, it seems like you're over him completely and that you're well on your way to moving forward and leaving him behind.

He's going to feel like he has to pursue you if he wants any chance of getting you back. You proved that although he made the call, you were in control the whole time. You were able to get off the phone without cluing him in to the fact that you still care for him at all. He thought that since he decided to end the relationship, the decisions were all in his hands. You proved him wrong, and he's not going to be prepared to deal with the implications.

Your Next Steps

You have got him where you want him if he is initiating contact with you again, the important thing is that you maintain his interest now and encourage him to make his next moves. To do that you will have to learn how to make him want you back. If you can create desire in him again, he will be more upfront with how he really feels about you. That is when you should be looking out for the signs he still loves you. When you notice these clues you are onto a winner and getting back together should be just around the corner.


Street Talk

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  about 9 years ago
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  about 9 years ago
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i told my boyfriend to take a week space from me to sort out his feelings. i was hopeful that things would work out as he was always telling me that he loved me and had strong feelings for me. but all of a sudden he said that he wanted to be single and had doubts about our future together. i did cry but i did not beg him to stay. i said sorry for any hurt i had caused him and thanked him for showing me love. very hard but i did it with as much dignaty as i could. but i never understand why he dont want to stay with me. but before he left he told me i am irressistable, lovely warm person etc but he just want to walk away from my life. the pain was awful. our getting together was fateful and we found out our birthday both 1st june. he is 43 and i am 44. it was weird. i thought we were made for each other. he deleted my numbers but i never let go of him. i wanted him back but he has made up his mind so i had no choice but to look for a way to get him back so what i did was to look for a spell caster to help me get back my lover fast as possible, when i came across prophetharry@ymail. com, so he did a love spell for me and the spell came out perfect, my lover reconciled with me and we came back together and since then we have been in peace and the lover is flowing perfectly julie

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