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5 Step Formula To Managing Difficult Personalities
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5 Step Formula to Managing Difficult Personalities

As long as there are people in the world there will always be people who are different from each other. We all have our own set of values, morals, beliefs and agendas. Is it any wonder there are clashes, differences of opinion and difficult personalities to deal with?

Wherever there is tension there is a need for something to be resolved.

I am learning more and more that whatever is in my life, it is there for a reason and it is always a reflection of whatever I’ve got going on inside my thoughts and feelings.

The choice is ours. We can absolutely push those thoughts and feelings aside and get about our lives. But haven’t you noticed these same situations tend to pop up somewhere else. It might be a different version of the event or involve other people, but the theme is always similar.

Difficult personalities actually create the perfect opportunity for personal growth.

If find that if I tune into the subtle side of life and purposefully look for the signs I can find the lesson behind the event. The best way I know how to do this is simply by asking myself “what is going on here, why is this occurring?” Doing this enables me to open my mind up enough to take on another perspective and let the light shine in on my circumstance.

You can come from a place of power when dealing with these situations. And how do you do that? By being completely honest with yourself about what you think and feel. Only when we are comfortable and confident with whom we are can we begin to make progress with resolution by effective communication.

So what is effective communication? I believe it is where all parties have the chance to express themselves and where there is an equal time and respect for speaking and listening.

There is a formula to effective communication. When followed, it can greatly enhance the ability the deal with conflict so that all parties benefit.

  1. Build Rapport. It is extremely hard to enter into good communication with difficult personalities unless there is common ground. A really good way to build rapport is to;
  2. Empathize and acknowledge the opinions and feelings of the other person. For example, say things such as “I hear where you are coming from”.
  3. Ask open and closed questions because it is important to gather information and facts to help better with understanding the issue at hand and the other points of view.
  4. Option generation and negotiation. This simply means exploring possible scenarios where each party can be satisfied with the outcome.
  5. Solutions and Agreement. To finalise the matter reiterate what was discussed and decided upon. Also know that agreeing to disagree is a viable path too. As long as respect is established and maintained.

Remember that there is a difference between being assertive and being aggressive. Assertive is being able to clearly communicate yourself without imposing your beliefs on the other person. Aggression will only further ingrain the existing divide.

It isn’t always easy to confront those difficult personalities but it sure puts you in a position of personal power in the long run.

Your stories, comments and feedback always welcome.


Street Talk

very good info, thanks.

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  about 7 years ago
  

Cheers for that Shawn

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  about 7 years ago

You have touched on the basic key to difficult people:" it is always a reflection of whatever I’ve got going on inside my thoughts and feelings". This is to be 'at cause' in life and illustrates why we can have difficulty with someone when the next person doesn't. Well said, C4men. Thank you!

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  about 7 years ago
  

I am remembering the article your wrote on being at cause in life. It helped me understand things better. Glad you enjoyed.

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  about 7 years ago
Lemuel  

Difficult personalities are hard to deal but sometimes interesting. Oftentimes we don't really know what's going on in their lives and why they behave that way. I'm glad you're giving me tips where I can add to my list. But I think if one's boss is really the difficult personality, it's worth considering shifting to internet marketing. :) I'm glad my boss is good to me.

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  about 7 years ago
  

You are absoutely right lemuel. We often dont know what is happening in other people's lives. Glad your boss is good to you!

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  about 7 years ago

Can't find a single point to argue or discuss with you. Great article and all points covered. Should be published where everyone can read it. Good one Love it

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  about 7 years ago
  

Thanks Rob, still getting my head around online authoring stuff. Content most important so have focused on that first!

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  about 7 years ago

Good one, don't forget to add a little of yourself, stir lightly and bake accordingly. The result will be magnificent. Not that they aren't now, they're damn good.

  
  about 7 years ago
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