If you are experiencing the pain of a break up that you did not wish for and you want to get back with your boyfriend, cheer up, not everything is lost. The fact that you were together with your boyfriend for a while is already a huge advantage that you have to win him back. All that’s left is to use these six proven ways to help you get back him back:

1. Keep some distance.

Cutting of contact for a while is very important in order to give your ex some space. It will also give you time to figure out what you need to do in order to fix your relationship. This way he will also start wondering why you are not contacting him, thus he will feel tempted to search for you.

2. Become the person he fell in love with.

If he decided to break up, it was probably because he felt that you’ve changed and you didn’t fulfill his emotional needs anymore. So be yourself again, stay positive and you will get back with your boyfriend.

3. Casually ask him out.

You can do that after some time has passed. Choose a place where friends or first dates can do something fun. Try to avoid talking about serious things because this will make him feel questioned and threatened. You can talk seriously other times; don’t initiate it unless he does.

4. Let him know you are thinking about him.

Do so without making him feel uncomfortable. This is important in order for him to know that he still has a chance to get you back too.

5. Find a new hobby.

This might mean going to dance lessons or just meeting new people. Your ex will feel that you are moving on and if he still has feelings for you, he will contact you without a doubt.

6. Say the right things.

This means that if you want to get back with your boyfriend you need to avoid giving him negative feedback like becoming all emotional and begging him to reconsider. Doing so will only irritate him and push him away. So stay calm and accept his decision.

Even though your ex boyfriend might have initiated the break up, you need to stay calm and realize that he might still have feelings left for you. So if you use these tips in the right way, it will help ease you both back into feeling for each other like you once did.