This Article is About
personality differences
character flaws
emotional baggage
permanent change
better person
taking steps
best friends
point of view
After A Breakup – Moving On By Forgiving
Join 1000's of Authors at StreetArticles Today!

After a breakup, moving on can be challenging when you’re not sure why you feel the way you do or if you’re unsure why the relationship didn’t work out. Looking at the breakup from an objective point of view will often reveal why it failed and will help you to recognize what you don’t want out of future relationships.

When a couple begins to have trouble, they often respond out of pain and anger. These heated arguments or discussions often mask the real underlying problem. As an example, if your partner is jealous and possessive, it’s more likely a sign of his or her own insecurity than any character flaws on your part. You have to understand what lies beneath the discord to really be able to understand why the relationship wasn’t good for you in the first place. Having this knowledge is powerful in that it allows you to see that it’s not because of either one party, but more of an issue with personality differences.

If you find that the relationship ended because of something that you know you have issues with, it’s beneficial to tackle it head on so that you don’t repeat this behavior in the future. People, who have emotional baggage that has them moving from one failed relationship to the next, will never be able to truly move on until this is resolved. This takes being brutally honest with yourself and requires that you be able to take action for permanent change. No one is perfect and you are actually a better person for recognizing your shortcomings and taking steps to resolve them.

When two otherwise emotionally healthy people break up, it’s often the result of growing apart. These types of relationships are generally less emotionally volatile when they end, with both parties having the ability to remain on a friendly basis afterwards. This is the ideal situation as it reflects the maturity and emotional stability of the two people involved. You don’t have to necessarily be best friends, but at least being friendly when you run into each other from time to time prevents harboring of resentment and negative feelings. After a breakup, moving on should include having the ability to forgive your former partner of any of their transgressions. This will go a long way towards your own emotional healing.

Continuing to fight or argue over truly meaningless things will prolong the pain of ending a relationship. After A Breakup, moving on means that you are emotionally ok with it and truly wish your former partner the best. Only when you let go of any hurt and forgive the other person will you really be able to move on.

For more information on how to Get Over A Breakup visit here. To see how to Get Over Divorce visit here.

Street Talk

No comments present
You May Also Like
My Son - Different From My Daughters
My experience as a mother started over nine years ago, with the birth of my first daughter. I did not have a clue what I was doing, and yet I was going to be totally responsible for the well being of another person. There was no owner's manual, no how-to…
By: Jennifer Vass in  Home and Family  >  Babies Toddler   Aug 05, 2013  
  Likes: 0

How to Get My Husband Back After Separation - Do You Need A No Contact Period?
If you're unsure of how to reconnect with your husband after a separation period, here are some basic guidelines to help you get back on track with life. First of all, you should allow a time window of 30 days of no contact from your husband after separation. This time…
By: Max Grimnar in  Relationships  >  Reconnecting   Sep 01, 2011  
  Likes: 112

5 Character Flaws That Kills Your Spiritual Growth
Other people's behaviors can have an effect on us and lure us away from our spiritual being. With our dysfunctional beliefs it's easy for us to point out the faults in others, but unaware of those same defects in ourselves. Spiritually, this can work to our advantage if we learn…
By: Vernon L in  Self Improvement  >  Spirituality   Jun 15, 2014  
  Likes: 11

How Can I Get Him To Love Me Again?
Breaking up seldom is easy, you know that, and I know that. A multitude of feelings are involved, anger,sadness, mistrust and confusion. These feelings and many more creep into our life. Thinking straight is just about impossible after a breakup, and in a short time you will find yourself starting…
By: Garry2 in  Relationships  >  Love   Dec 08, 2011  
  Likes: 3

Can You Be Friends With An Ex Boyfriend? - The Truth
Being friends with an ex boyfriend is a tricky situation. Some girls believe that it will allow them to have a front row seat into their personal lives. They thinks that if they hang on long enough that their ex boyfriend will see the error of his ways and realise…
By: Charlotte Jane in  Relationships  >  Friendship   Sep 11, 2012  
  Likes: 0

Second Chance Dating – How to Have A Great Second First Date
Dating can be tricky the first time around. When you're trying to date a second time and dealing with all the leftover emotional baggage it becomes even trickier. But that doesn't have to mean you're doomed if you want to date your ex. It doesn't matter why you broke up.…
By: T Dub Jackson in  Relationships  >  Dating   May 07, 2011  
  Likes: 0

Three Steps to Get Your Ex Back After A Breakup
If you have recently broken up with someone you might be wondering if there is a way for you to get them back. Breakups are very difficult to handle and can be devastating to both parties. It is natural for you to want to get back together with someone you…
By: Charles Garnett in  Relationships  >  Reconnecting   Dec 01, 2011  
  Likes: 1

Help Me! Married 13 Years and My Wife Had an Affair
Wished there was help when you find out your wife had an affair after 13 years of marriage? This can be a painful and traumatic emotional time for anyone to face. Your wife ending the affair is only a step toward repairing the damage. Before you are really able to…
By: Roy D. Holtz in  Relationships  >  Affairs   Jun 10, 2011  
  Likes: 0

Conflict Brings Out the Best And Worst In People
Self Preservation The primal urge for self preservation is often linked to an array of emotions and thoughts, each juxtaposed in the aspect of good and evil. The subjectivity of these often conservative and radical actions, as individuals’ enter an increasingly volatile era of insecurity and hardship. From the ambitious…
By: George Siladi in  Relationships  >  Conflict   Jun 06, 2016  
  Likes: 0

My Heart is Breaking Because My Boyfriend Dumped Me – What Should I Now?
Your heart is breaking because your boyfriend dumped you. You have no idea what your next move should be. Should you try to get your boyfriend back or should you just hide away from the world a little while – until the pain goes away? What should you do now?…
By: T Dub Jackson in  Relationships  >  Conflict   May 23, 2011  
  Likes: 2

Get Back At Ex By Being Nice - 4 Ways To Get Back At Them With Kindness
Dealing with an ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend can be accomplished in many different ways. Some people are rude and vindictive because they want their ex to feel and and suffer. And there are those who choose to be nice in order to get back at their ex. If you…
By: Garry2 in  Relationships  >  Conflict   Dec 27, 2011  
  Likes: 1

Husband Cheated With Best Friend - How to Deal With the Devastation
Learning that your husband cheated with your best friend is one of the hardest emotional blows you can take. Not only have you lost your husband's trust, but also that of your best friend. You feel betrayed, in pain, confused... and completely devastated. In most cases, your husband will also…
By: Max Grimnar in  Relationships  >  Conflict   Sep 02, 2011  
  Likes: 0

Save Your Relationship From The Grim Reaper – How To Stop A Divorce From Happening Now
The grim reaper has finally come to claim death to your marriage, but you’re still not willing to give up. That’s awesome. You’ve been together with your spouse for as long as you can remember, and the last thing you want to do is get a divorce. You love your…
By: Lucas Heart in  Relationships  >  Conflict   May 23, 2011  
  Likes: 0

5 Proven Technique For Getting Back With Your Ex Girlfriend
If you have been in a long term relationship that has suddenly ended, you’re probably going nuts trying to figure out what went wrong. You might have tried all things like begging her to reconsider and chasing her around telling her how much you love her, but seriously dude, you…
By: Lucas Heart in  Relationships  >  Conflict   May 05, 2011  
  Likes: 0

How Do You Know When to Move on After A Break Up?
Is there a magic sign that lets you know now is the time to move on after a break up? Is there some sort of feeling you're supposed to get that says it's OK to start dating again? When you stop feeling sucker punched whenever you hear her name or…
By: T Dub Jackson in  Relationships  >  Conflict   Mar 28, 2011  
  Likes: 0

Article Views: 5569    Report this Article