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Breaking Up Isn't The End - How To Get Control Of Your Emotions And Reconnect With Her After The Breakup
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I know you’re feeling terrible after your breakup, but I’m here to tell you: It isn’t the end of the world. You might feel as though you have no hope of getting your ex girlfriend, or even your life, for that matter, back on the right track.

But these are just negative thoughts that result from a huge life change like a breakup. In truth, they will pass - and when the negativity goes, you stand a greater chance of reconnecting with your ex.

Ask yourself: were the good times enough?

A breakup is actually an excellent way to get some distance on your relationship. The good times might seem rosy to you right now, when your ex is gone, but were they really as good as they seemed?

Ask yourself the things you had in common with her. Did you share the same interests? The same values? If you loved being together all the time and your relationship was largely harmonious, you probably stand a good chance of getting back together.

However if you were constantly fighting and bickering, there might have been an underlying problem.

If there was a problem, address it

Did you feel valued in your relationship? Often, a lack of equal partnership, which is brought on by a lack of respect, is a cause of breakups. If she didn’t respect you because you didn’t assert your own needs enough, that might have been a leading cause for your breakup.

It’s important for you to be assertive about your needs in a relationship. Especially when it comes to the thing to do to win her back after a breakup - because that thing, in truth, is being realistic about your relationship.

I know being realistic is tough when you’re emotional and in pain from a breakup, but it’s very important before you go trying to get back together with her.

If you choose to pursue the relationship, write her a letter

The best way to get things back on good territory when you’re figuring out the right thing to do to win her back after a breakup is to write her a letter. It needs to be a handwritten letter that you pen yourself.

Don’t apologize or get too wishy-washy; just keep it simple. If you do apologize, simply say, “I’m sorry for acting crazy or out of control.” Then, let her know you’re okay and fine with the breakup, even if you don’t feel this way.

A letter is actually very powerful even if it seems old-school to you. This is because in our high-paced society, a letter is out of the ordinary, and it will grab her attention.


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