If your ex has started to show some interest in you again, calling you and finding reasons to spend time with you, then you are probably wondering why. Of course this is great, and of course it is making you feel hopeful, but don’t be too quick to jump to conclusions. Just because your ex is flirting with you again, it doesn’t always mean what you hope it does.

The best way to play things here is cool, but don’t overdo the ‘hard to get’ role. It was probably being less available that brought your ex back into your life, and you don’t want to throw away your new advantage. Jumping back in with both feet at the first sign of interest could easily drive your ex away again. So spend some time together, but don’t always be available whenever a call or a date happens. Stick with the role that brought about this renewed interest in the first place.

It is natural to miss each other after a breakup, especially after long term relationships. You have so many shared memories, and a huge space is left in both your lives with the loss of the time you spent together. You will also be looking back with regret at the things which went wrong, and your ex will be doing the same. From here is natural to move on to thoughts of getting back together, and it is very likely that your ex’s thoughts will go in the same direction.

You need to be cautious, though, in case your ex is just filling in time before finally moving on, or playing other games with you. If you have been doing other things and spending good times with your friends, your ex may simply be piqued and anxious to get your attention and prove that you still yearn for them. Or if your relationship ended messily, they may just be out for revenge. So take some time, let things develop slowly and try to get a feel for how this new situation is developing.

If you play it cool, you will give your ex time to prove that they genuinely want to spend time with you, and that they want to use this time to try to mend your relationship. If you try not to get your hopes up too quickly, it will stop you being too hurt again if after all you don’t get back together. Let your ex do the chasing, and let your new relationship unfold naturally and at its own pace.