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When you first break up with your boyfriend you'll drive yourself crazy looking for signs that he still cares about you even though he's dumped you. You'll grasp at every straw that comes your way while looking for an end to the pain you're feeling and for ways to get your boyfriend back. There are no rules about what the signals he's sending mean but the chances are that if he isn't making a move, he's not committed to the idea of getting you back.

On the other hand, there are also no rules that indicate you can't get be the one to get him back instead. You can do the heavy lifting and win him back but only if you play your cards right. The most important things you need on your side, if you intend to get your boyfriend back, are time and distance. Those two things give you a huge advantage for your efforts to win him back. First, absence does make the heart grow fonder most of the time. If you've been apart for a reasonable amount of time, the odds are good that he's started to miss you. More importantly, he's beginning to think about the reasons he left and more likely to remember the good times you had together.

Second, distance isn't always purely physical. Emotional distance allow him to really put things into perspective and realize that neither of you were perfect in the relationship. Now that there's a little perspective the idea of compromise will be much easier for him to swallow. This is very good news if you're on the lookout for signs of interest by him. That means that you're still interested in finding ways to get your ex back and it doesn't look as though it's going to be too difficult to make that happen if you don't rush in too far too fast.

The first thing you want to do is build more confidence in yourself during your time apart. When you can approach him from a position of strength it will do wonders for your relationship now and in the future. But there's an even bigger bonus to this new level of self-worth. You see, there is nothing a man finds sexier than a woman who has confidence in herself. This doesn't mean to go overboard with it. You just need to show him that you are comfortable in your own skin and that you're not trying to save your relationship because you can't live without him but because you love him and WANT him in your life.


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