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Ex Boyfriend Dating  -  I\'m Jealous Of His New Girlfriend

Learning that your ex has already moved on and is seeing someone new can be just as difficult as going through the initial breakup. In fact, it can feel like breaking up all over again. It's a time full of challenges for any girl. You're left to wonder if your relationship was special at all and why he was able to move on so rapidly. You're already feeling down because of the breakup. Finding out that he's already seeing someone new can compound those feelings and make them even worse.

Feelings are Not that Fluid

It's natural to wonder if he has any feelings at all left for you, or if he's found love with his new flame. A lot of it depends on how long ago the breakup occurred. Everyone deals with grief and loss differently, and they move on their own timetable. You can still be heartbroken while he seems to be having the time of his life.

You probably haven't considered the fact that he's into his new relationship because he's trying to hide or deny the feelings he still has for you. Not everything is like it seems when dealing with the emotional hurdles of an ending relationship. People deal with it differently. Maybe he's trying to prove to himself or to you that he doesn't need you to be happy. His methods for dealing with the breakup may not make sense, but they're what he's grasping at to make sense of the situation in his own head. Don't believe everything you see just because you see it. He probably thinks that jumping into the dating pool head first will help him get over you, but this method rarely works.

Feelings don't just disappear overnight. Close connections are hard to break. Your feelings for him didn't happen magically in one split second - they grew naturally over time, and his did too. Likewise, they don't disappear instantly just because the relationship is over. The longer you were together, the deeper these bonds can be. Your job is to allow them to resurface and get him to experience those feelings again.

Wait out the Honeymoon Phase

If you see your ex out and about with his new girlfriend, they may seem incredibly happy together. It's no cause for alarm - the honeymoon phase of any new relationship is always magical, but it doesn't always last. Jumping into a new fling so soon after ending your relationship means that your ex is clearly trying to either forget about his feelings for you or prove that he can. These relationships often fall apart just as quickly as they begin.

His new girlfriend will always be measured against you, and he's going to be constantly comparing the two of you. Unless your relationship was unhealthy to begin with, these comparisons will only lean in your favor. This will make him start to miss the relationship that you had and cause him to question his reasons for ending it. This is the very reason that you should not interfere at this stage and let things run their course. He will come to realize what he's missing in his own time.

The Problem with Rebound Relationships

Haven't you noticed that rebound relationships rarely work out? They hardly ever last more than eight weeks, and they're gone before they have a chance to truly get started. It usually takes that amount of time for your ex to realize that he moved on way too quickly, and she's not the dream girl he thought she was.

Dating quickly after a breakup is a good distraction from all the pain that a breakup brings, but that distraction is not meant to be a long-term fix. Men commonly look to other companionship to soothe their loneliness and pain. It can be easier to pretend that everything's fine rather than facing the reality of the situation.

Look at how precarious the foundations of his new relationship really are. This is why you have a great chance at getting him back, as long as you don't rush into it too soon. Just sit back, relax and have some patience. Chances are, he'll be knocking at your door sooner than you think, and you won't even have to lift a finger.

Control Your Emotions

Making sure your emotions are in check is vital to successfully winning your ex back. It could mean the difference between successfully renewing your relationship and watching him walk away forever. Control your jealousy and anger when you find out that he's seeing someone new. Don't give him any ammunition to accuse you of being jealous, childish or immature. Waiting things out and having patience is a difficult thing to do, but it is necessary in order to successfully reach your goal.

Whenever you see the two of them together, simply hold your tongue and be polite. Don't stroke his ego and give him the satisfaction of seeing you loose it. It will probably be ripping your insides apart, but put on a brave face in front of him and his new flame. Seeing you take it well will make him start to question his beliefs about you, and his respect for you will multiply. He'll start to question the reasons behind your breakup. He will be expecting you to behave differently and to exhibit some signs of jealousy - he's probably counting on it.

By doing the opposite of what he's expecting, he'll start to regain his attraction to you and see you as mysterious and unpredictable. That will make you even more attractive and make it so much easier to get him back. It's funny how psychology can work in your favor sometimes.

Next Steps

There are even more proven methods to letting him come to the conclusion that jumping into a new relationship is a mistake. You can do certain things to speed up this waiting process. It's all about learning to interpret the male psyche, and figure out why they react to things the way they do. You can learn all about them and more - like figuring out the signs he's still into you. These are the best ways to win him back without having to force him into something prematurely.

After you know his real feelings, it is time to kick things up a gear! You will need to learn how to make him want you again, this is not as hard as it seems. If you manage to pull this off correctly he will soon forget about this new girl and come running back in your direction.


Street Talk

Charlotte, good article. nothing more ugly then a woman making a fool out of herself when seeing her ex with another woman. Have respect for yourself and like you stated keep your emotions in check. I do want to add however look deep into all aspects of this former relationship and really see if this person good for you in the first place. Love, sexual attraction and being a needy person can cloud good decisions on what is best for you. Sometimes folks need time to reflect on all of this.

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  about 7 years ago
AdamCohen  

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  about 7 years ago
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  about 8 years ago
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  about 9 years ago
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  about 9 years ago
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  about 9 years ago
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  about 9 years ago
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  about 9 years ago
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  about 9 years ago
Thanks3  

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  about 9 years ago
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