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Fighting and arguing are the most common reason couples break up. This does not mean that you are not meant to be together. It simply means that you spend a lot of time together.... and could probably benefit from a little time apart.
Have you ever had a friend who became your room mate and after 6 months or so you noticed that you did not get along as well as you used to? This very same concept can cause problems in your love life.... But, on a larger scale. When you are around any person for long periods of time, it is common for there to be some tension.
Sexual tension is one form that hopefully is being taken care of by intimacy with one another. If it is not, then this could be a great place to start. You should be able and willing to fulfill each others sexual needs.
It is important for you to realize that the more you have in common with on another, the more prone you are to clash if you spend too much time together.... What is too much time together? How long does it take before you start to snap at each other? Or make rude comments? Do fights and arguments begin with something small and insignificant and get blown out of proportion? Is it a full 24 hour period without getting alone time? Or is it more like a full week without being apart from each other before things get touchy?
No matter who you are or how close you are to your lover, everyone NEEDS alone time. It can be easy to smother those whom you love. It is important to remember that there is a world out there apart from your relationship. If it's the time you are away at work each day, at school, or other activity.... Even if daily time is unrealistic, examine one day a week in which your partner and yourself can enjoy separate activities with friends or family where you can each get your mind off each other.
This alone time can save any relationship destroyed by fighting. I have learned this the hard way, but it really does work. When you are reunited at the end of the day, your alone time will be that much richer. You time alone with your partner is much more precious when it is not commonplace. Missing each other is ok.....
If you are already past the point of being able to prevent a break up, no worries. A break up can occur simply because you need some time apart from each other. So, let her know that you agree with the break up and some time apart can be good for the both of you. You can get back with your ex girlfriend or boyfriend by giving each other a little space and starting over.
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