So your spouse cheated on you and broke your heart and your trust. Now many questions are running through your head. Do you know if this was a one time thing? Was this a case of wrong place wrong time? Were her defenses down and it just happened at a party or a bar, Etc? Are they in Love with the other person? Are they still seeing the other person? Who is the other person? Is it someone you know or a stranger? These are all questions that you will need to get answered before you decide to get spouse back.

Now I know you are thinking how unlucky you are and how misfortunate this whole turn of events is. Your every thought centers around your broken relationship and if or how you can get spouse back. Your world is turned upside down. You did not see it coming at all and you are totally taken off guard. You may not have had any idea there was any problems and thought you had a happy marriage. While this seems terrible and you have many questions, it could be worse. You ask how could it be worse?

Many times one spouse will suspect that the other is cheating, but have no real proof. You know, mysterious phone calls, unexplained trips out at night, home late from work, girls night out frequency increases, trips to Wal-Mart yet they do not buy anything, there habits change, new cologne or perfume, etc. If they will not confess it is very hard to prove what you fear is true. You can't help yourself so you finally confront them. Of course they are not going to admit there affair and may even turn the fact that you are asking around on you. Saying don't you trust me? If you did trust me you wouldn't question my Love for you. You want to believe they are faithful, so you go into denial and except their story. But circumstances will continue to haunt you and eat at you and of course the relationship will get worse and worse making it harder to get spouse back.

By knowing that your spouse cheated, you are actually on the right track as to how to get your spouse back and save your relationship. Because obviously they either confessed or you out and out caught them. So now you need to talk with them and get all of the above questions answered. Then you have to ask yourself can you ever trust them again? It will be very hard to rebuild the trust. You also have to ask yourself if you want them back? Is it worth it? Or do you simply just want to move on? In order to get spouse back it will obviously help if both parties put forth equal effort to rebuild the relationship.

Well only you know whether you want to try to save your marriage. Do you want to get back with an ex? There are many factors to consider. However conventional wisdom would suggest that yes, even though your spouse was unfaithful to you, it is worth while to at least try to get spouse back.