When a relationship has ended, the last thing that anybody wants to be dealing with is regrets. Asking yourself “what if” is rarely of any benefit, to you, your ex or anyone else around you, as it simply prolongs the pain and will mean your heart will take longer to heal.

Sometimes, though, a break up will cause you to question everything you did in the relationship, in case one of your actions led to it ending.

If you can’t help but wonder whether there is still that spark of attraction between you and your ex-boyfriend, then the only way to answer your question and find out whether it could work again might be to try and win him back.

Before you do anything to try and rekindle your romance, think about the situation you are in. Do the two of you speak on a regular basis, are you polite to one another but it feels awkward between you, or are you avoiding each other completely?

If the two of you are communicating regularly, and you are able to talk, then the first thing you should do is discuss your relationship with your ex-boyfriend.

If he was the one to end the relationship, then now is your chance to ask him his reasons. Listen to him, because this is when he will tell you if it was anything in particular that you did.

It may be that small things, like a bad habit of leaving clothes on the floor, built up over time and he didn’t want to deal with these issues any more.

Talk to him, and if you are serious about getting him back, a heartfelt apology will be of great benefit. Don’t exaggerate though, or make promises that you know you won’t be able to keep.

Another important thing you should do if you are serious about winning back your ex boyfriend is to rediscover the woman he first noticed. If that means taking a lot more care over your appearance, or joining a gym and getting fit again, then do it.

Although it sounds very shallow to be paying so much attention to your looks, physical appearance plays a very big role in attraction. Don’t underestimate how powerful a flattering outfit or new haircut can be when it comes to men.

The third and final option is to play hard to get. Yes, you know that you desperately want him back, but he is probably not aware of this, and thinks you have moved on.

So, get dressed up, go out with some friends and have fun. Make it look as though you have moved on, even though you haven’t. If you can choose a venue where he will see you, that is even better.

Don’t be afraid to flirt with other men if they show an interest. Making your ex feel jealous is a great way to make him realise that he misses you and wants you back in his life, so don’t be surprised to find him making a move again.