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Getting To The Root Of Your Breakup - Ideas For A Solution
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Getting to the root of any kind of problem usually winds up being a tall order to fill doesn't it? When it comes to a breakup it can sometimes be that one thing you didn't expect, and that can be a little unsettling.

You don't know if the problem is really about you or your ex. So the question I have is do you want to just find out what caused the breakup or do you want to get back together with the ex?

Well no matter how you decide to approach this, you're going to find out one way or the other.

First thing I would do is assess the damage that's been done, see if it can be salvaged. You need to figure out if it's worth it because honestly, the damage done might be too catastrophic and saving your relationship might be out of reach. This will save you a lot of headaches.

Hopefully for you this is not the case, however this is what happens to a lot of couples. If you can manage to make contact, then by all means talk to each other and be as civil as you can.

I know that is a hard pill to swallow especially if your angry but you really need to communicate in a way so you can move past the bad stuff.

Just keep in mind there is always other ways to communicate whether it's email, texting, or sending a card.

Myself, I'm not really a big talker as far as telling people how I feel, and believe me when I tell you I've seen first hand on how that can hurt a relationship or marriage.

That's why I'm always going to advise that if you do find a way to work things out, keep each other informed on what's happening in your lives. I don't mean everything but you know what I'm saying.

No matter what life is going to move forward whether you want it too or not.

One mistake people make is trying to put the relationship back exactly the way it was, but the truth is if it didn't work that way the first time don't try it again.

You want to leave the bad memories behind so you can build something better and stronger for each other.

Remember, your only on this earth once so do what you feel is right for yourself.

Listen, "if you want things in your life to change, your going to have to change things in your life". With that being said I know a very knowledgeable person who has a guide posted on my website that is well worth reading, and if you can get past his southern draw things will start making sense to you. Go to and watch this cool video.

I've seen a lot of relationships go down the drain over the course of my life, my parents got divorced when I was 4 years old. I've also had several friends who have gone through the same thing and it's never an easy thing to go through. My intentions here are to give people the best down to earth advice that I can. I will do my absolute best to speak from the heart and hope that I can help people who are hurting emotionally.

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very good article... anyone in a relationship, and if you want it to be a long term thing, you gotta be very, very serious about it... both the partners have to have the same level of commitment, otherwise it just doesn't work... really good article... looking forward to reading more from you... :)

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