A lot of women who have been left by their boyfriends and still hold them dear to their hearts would do anything to get them back. It might not be an easy task especially if you are the one who did him wrong but, if you are determined, patient and smart; you will get them back eventually. Here are some guidelines to help you get your ex back without struggling or hurting yourself more. To begin with, you need to find out what caused the break up. If you were in a beneficial relationship and still want to get your ex back to benefit more, here is what you need to do next.

Men are attracted not only to beauty but also emotional accomplishment which is one of the things that probably attracted him to you. The things that you used to do to make him feel good should be revived immediately. You should introduce them at a considerable pace and with a fresh feel and look to revive those feelings he had when he first met you. This should happen in manner that should not portray that he hurt you when he left. You should smile, laugh and feel good as if nothing happened.

When you meet after the breakup you might not know what to say to get him back but this shouldn’t trouble you much. Absolute calm and positive response is just perfect. Make him see and feel that you are really fine with the breakup just like you were when he told you he is leaving. Expression of grief and pleading for him to come back will not help you get him back, but probably worsen things. It might sting to ignore the urge deep within that wants him back but self control is all you need here, blended with self composure.

Getting another chance to see him again in a gathering should be a great chance to refresh his memory. Meeting in a joint that you used to hang out before is a viable consideration and the other thing is to wear an outfit that he used to like. This combined with the positive response will only make him wish he had not left and probably come back. Care is a quality that merged with love when you were still together and if it still exists in him, you will have a better chance of getting him back. This is one thing that you need to ascertain before embarking on anything.

As you plan to get your ex back, you should also look at yourself. Taking a sweet bath, going to the salon and having your hair and nails done and dressing to bring out the good in you; are some of the things you need to get him thinking. Feeling good and acting it on a real basis will help you get him back because he will have second thoughts about his decision and wonder how it would be like to still have you in his life again. If you take no notice of him but remain respectful, he will feel you are the one who left hence work on bringing you back into your life again.