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He Broke Up With Me, How Do I Get Him Back?
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He Broke Up With Me, How Do I Get Him Back?

If you are asking this question, he broke up with me, how do I get him back?, here is an answer that might help you. After a breakup, getting back together, is not always easy and not always possible to be truthful. It really depends on both your attitudes and the circumstances that broke you up.

The first this you need to be looking into, is why you broke up with each other. Did one, or both of you cheat on each other or do you think he cheated? Obviously, this is a difficult challenge to get over. If you cheated on him, or he cheated in the relationship, examine the reasons behind the infidelity. It is quite possible you both should not be together.

If you were the one who cheated, and you know it was a big mistake, did you lie about it? Cheating is a form of lying, and when it was brought to your attention, did you deny it? Did you confess immediately? Or, another scenario, did you admit nothing until he found out through the grapevine and than admitted to doing it?

You must realize how hurt he must feel if you did cheat. The only hope you have of getting back together is in getting him to believe that you acknowledge you have made a bad mistake, you're sorry for doing it and are going to work hard not to hurt his feelings again.

Now, if he believes you have cheated and you never did, there are only a few ways to prove yourself innocent. If he is not willing to believe your word about the matter, there is very little you can do to assure him you have been faithful. Now, if he has no trust in you, you should seriously be asking yourself if you should even be with this guy.

If on the other hand, he wanted to be with another girl and broke up with you, it is going to be difficult getting him back. This also puts you in a worst situation.If he is with the other girl, he will probably not come back to you. But, there is always hope the situation changes.

Be on your best behavior whenever you have to interact with him. You want the memory of how fun and loving you were when he started a relationship with him. Take his mind of the person who he left for another girl. Maybe he will realize he made a mistake thinking you have become another person other than the one he hoped you would be.

Refrain from changing yourself just to please him, this is a big mistake. Just be the person you were at the beginning of your relationship, the girl he fell in love with. Let him know you are interested in getting him back, without pleading, threats or accusations. Just be a good friend is a way to accomplish this.

Being a friend to him will let him know you care about him and your interest is not just to get him back. You're most likely thinking he broke up with me, how do I get him back? I do not want to take months doing it.

You are going to have to demonstrate that you will be there for him, without making yourself into a person you definitely are not. You have to also come to the realization, that if things will not work out between you both, you need to move on.


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