If you are asking yourself “How can I get him back when he moved on?" then you should pay close attention to this article.

Getting back together with an ex-boyfriend sounds as though it should be a daunting and difficult task. However, large numbers of women get back together with an ex every year, so there is no reason why you should not also be able to give this a go.

Analyze the situation.

Firstly, think about the situation in which you now find yourself. Are you and your ex-boyfriend on speaking terms? How long ago was the break up?

Regardless of who chose to end the relationship, if it happened very recently then the best thing you can do right now is to take the time you need and allow your heart to begin healing.

He will also, no doubt, be upset by the ending of your relationship, even if he does not show it.

Don’t try to contact your ex until at least a month after the break up, as this will give both of you some time to consider what happened and what you want now.

Let him speak why he broke up with you.

If the break up happened a while ago and the two of you are now on speaking terms again, then talk to each other about your relationship.

You will not be able to find out what went wrong and why he chose to leave unless you ask him, so find the courage to bring up the topic of conversation.

You may discover that he was simply fed up of some bad habits you did not realise you had, or he may have felt that the relationship had turned stale and he could no longer see a future with you.

Be prepared to talk about your own problems within the relationship too – communication is most effective when it goes both ways.

Think about a brand new relationship.

If the two of you decide to give your relationship a second try, then treat it as though this is a brand new relationship. Take it slowly and get to know each other again.

People change over time, so both of you need to accept that you are not the same as when you first met, and learn who the other is now. You may find this easy, or it may be difficult. However, it is vitally important if the two of you are going to have a successful relationship.

Focus on yourself, too.

Don’t forget to focus on yourself, too. What was it about you that made him first approach you? Think about why he fell in love with you and try to rediscover that woman.

Was it a carefree, give anything a go attitude, a wicked sense of humour, or your drive and ambition that attracted him?

Has this changed over time and he no longer recognizes you as that person?

Appearance also plays a huge role in attraction – dress to flatter your figure, perhaps get your hair done, or make use of that gym membership you pay for every month.

Maintaining any kind of relationship takes effort, and getting back together with an ex is no different. You will want to ensure the feelings are still mutual, but if they are, there is no reason why this should not work.