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Your girlfriend says she hates you and never wants to see you again. How can this be? Just yesterday she was telling you she loved you. Does it all mean nothing? When your relationship suddenly turns from good to gone it leaves you scratching your head in wonder as your heart is falling to pieces all around you. There are no easy answers but you may take comfort in knowing that while the line between love and hate is thin; it generally isn't THAT thin. Of course that doesn't really ease your confusion or heal the hurt you're going through right now.

It's completely understandable to feel this way when your relationship has taken a sudden turn for the worst. Your head may be spinning from all the confusion. Worse still, you might not have the slightest clue about what brought on this sudden change. While there are rumors floating around that women today change their minds on a turn of the dime, there is usually a little more to the story at times like this than she just changed her mind. The problem is that when it comes to reasonable explanations she may not even know what the real reason for her sudden (or in most cases not so sudden but building up over time and finally blowing up) unhappiness with the relationship may be.

You NEED answers. You need to know why she changed her mind and her heart so suddenly. You certainly want to figure out what you did to earn her hate. Those are all normal reactions. But, your approach when it comes to getting those answers can make or break your chances for saving your relationship. If you want to have any hope at all that you might some day get your ex back then you need to avoid going in when emotions are high and demanding answers from your girlfriend (or ex-girlfriend as the case may be).

What you need to do now is take a step back and find a sense of calm. That's not the easiest thing to do when your heart feels like it's ready to beat right out of your chest. But it is something that is necessary to do if you're interested in getting your girlfriend back – or at least getting answers as to why she had such a sudden change of heart. Take some time away from her. Don't call, email, text message, drive by, pop in, or leave FaceBook messages or Tweets on Twitter. Just stay away altogether. Don't even check her FaceBook page so you can get the distance you need.

Then, after one full month, sit down and write a second chance letter. This letter, when written well can be a complete turning point for your relationship that leads to the happily ever after you had envisioned.

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