Is there a magic sign that lets you know now is the time to move on after a break up? Is there some sort of feeling you're supposed to get that says it's OK to start dating again? When you stop feeling sucker punched whenever you hear her name or find yourself in the same room she's in? Will it ever get any easier so that you feel like you're even capable of moving on with her? These are all very valid questions. Unfortunately, there are no easy answers.

You will reach a point in your life when you can move on without her in it but it might take a little effort on your part to make happen. Not everyone is able to just turn off their emotions. Some people find it much more difficult than others to do. When a break up has happened it's hard to just move on with your life and try to pretend that nothing is wrong or that nothing has happened. You know better. You know that your world has been turned upside down and you're just waiting for the rest of the world to stop for a minute so you can catch your breath and pick up the pieces. That's what you feel like you need more than anything.

Unfortunately, the world isn't usually all that nice. People go on about their days and you're left trying to figure out what to do with yourself and your broken heart. You don't know how to move forward and you wish with all your heart that you could go back to a time when your world made sense – or at least felt like it did. When will you be able to move on and when should you stop holding out hope that a miracle is going to happen and that you'll be able to somehow get your ex back again?

It would be nice if everything would just work out for you like that. But it rarely does. Now that doesn't mean that you can't get your ex back. It just means that it's not going to happen like a bolt out the blue. At least that isn't the likely way it's going to happen. Someone is going to have to make the first move to get the relationship back on track if either of you wants to save the relationship. Now is a good time to make one last push to make your relationship work and then you can go from there to decide whether or not now is the right time for you to move on after a break up.