Your breakup wasn't your idea. In fact, you were dead set against it. However, after a few really big fights that ended in flying dishes, hurled insults, and more than a few scars for your hearts. The person you loved most in the world had had enough and walked away.

Part of you feels like the thing was your fault and part of you is so angry at your ex for walking out. The next minute you're feeling sorry for yourself that things ended the way they did and you want to know how to get your ex back. You hate feeling like this. You hate feeling divided about where you want to go from here. What you really want is to know how long it takes to get over an ex so you can stop feeling this way and move on with your life.

Or, is it?

Could it be that the one thing you want most in this world is to get your ex back and continue the relationship you were hoping to have with the person you love so much it drives you to distraction?

For some people, it is this fiery passion that makes the relationship so wonderful. It's the same passion that also makes it so hard to handle.

You're going back and forth from hot to cold. The good times are exhilarating and you can really feel the love between the two of you. But the bad times are really hard to handle. Every time it feels worse and worse. At times you feel like ending the relationship really was for the best.

Then there are times when you can't help but wonder who great it could have been if you had just been able to work things out. But is that enough to build on and get your ex back over?

For some people it's more than enough. But if you're ready to move on and walk away then it may be best to put these thoughts aside and focus more on the things you can do to move on after things have gone south in your relationship.

Dating again is a great way to get your eyes, heart, and mind turned toward the future. You don't have to go out and get involved in an instant and intense rebound relationship. But that doesn't mean that dating again is a bad idea altogether.

Play the field a little bit. Date a few different women and see how they compare to the one who got away. Let the very act of dating these other women help you regain a certain sense of self-confidence, independence, and gather intelligence about the options that are available for dating.

You might even discover that the green-eyed monster is starting to show a few signs of interest once your ex finds out you're dating again. It could be the perfect push she needs to come and ask you for a second chance.

If you still love her at all this would be the perfect time to explore ways to get your girlfriend back for good. If she doesn't come to you, study the advice I've shared with others that have helped more than 50,000 people get back together with their ex's and set out to win her heart back instead.