Well, you went and messed up again. You said or did something and she’s mad. Now she expects you to apologize and mean it.

If you just blurt out an apology without knowing what exactly you did wrong, you may just end up making her more upset. So before that happens, ask her what you did wrong if you aren’t sure. Once you are clear about what you did wrong you can figure out how to apologize and mean it.

There are several ways you can do this:

· The first thing you might do is get a really nice card from the local card shop. The card should be carefully chosen to let her know that you are truly sorry and that you accept total responsibility for what went wrong.

· Buy her a small gift. There has to be something that she has put off buying for herself, if so, pick it up and surprise her with it along with the apology. This will also let her know you have been paying close attention to what’s going on with her.

· Send her a nice bouquet of flowers. Or better yet, deliver them to her along with an apology. Explain to her why you behaved the way you did without making excuses for it.

· Take her out. A nice relaxing dinner at a quiet restaurant can help you show her that you’re sorry and want to make up with her.

· Give her a spa day. What better gift than to give her a spa day and let her be pampered. If you are really adventurous you could get a couples package and go with her.

These are just some basic suggestions. You should know her best, so you will be able to figure out a good way to say you’re sorry. If the card and flowers seem kinda lame to you, try getting creative and using your imagination to come up with something really great.

Keep in mind that how you say you’re sorry is very important. Don’t just do whatever to get back on her good side. She has to see that you really are sincere.

The best way to apologize and mean it is to take what you’ve done and be very sure it doesn’t happen again. This could mean you need to make adjustments to your actions or attitude so she sees you are trying to do better.

You can’t just keep apologizing over and over again for the same thing. If that starts happening, she will feel you aren’t sincere and can’t or won’t change.