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How To Cope With A Painful Breakup
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How to Cope With A Painful Breakup

When it comes to breakups and being heartbroken, it seems like experience really does not help as each breakup might even feel worse compared to the last one. The process can often lead people to thinking that there is no more point of living as their "everything" is now gone. Breaking up is never easy and if you truly loved that person, it can often turn your world upside down but it surely is not the end of the world. Coping painful breakup situations can often make life feel impossible to live but there are some ways to help weather the storm and to get through the painful phase.

Delete and you will forget

Inevitably, you will be going through that person's social network sites as much as every 30 minutes. Though this might seem extreme, people have been known to just stare at their ex's page and just hoping for some sign that things will be okay. Whether you broke up mutually or the other person broke up with you, it can often be very hard to move on for the first few weeks. You essentially spent hours everyday with each other and when the usual "routine" stops, it can often change your life. This is why you need to get up and ignore the internet as much as possible. The internet is where you will be very vulnerable to sending heartbroken messages that can further make things worse. Delete that person completely and make sure that you do not make another account to "stalk" your ex.

Focus on yourself

Once you are able to get over the initial shock of not having that person by your side, you will then have to focus on the things that you have been missing out on while you were in a relationship. Let's be honest, being in a relationship usually stops you from doing the things that you want because sometimes you will be too focused on the relationship. Things like sports or hobbies are often neglected simply because of the fact that you forgot what it feels like to be single again. Once you are single and your life changes, it is up to you to take the initiative to really step out of your comfort zone and to start exploring. Things like mountain climbing, golfing or even nature walks are all great ways to get your mind off of the problem and to help you move on faster. This however will only distract you for so long until you are able to find a trustworthy friend.

Find a friend

This is arguably the best way to get over an ex and will most likely be the most important step to fully get over that person. Having a friend to talk to is very important and should be the first thing on your mind when you are trying to get through this stage in your life. There are plenty of choices and your closest friend should be the first on the list but people like your parents or family members are also options that you can choose from. Finding someone that you can trust however is the hard part because you will be letting out all of your innermost thoughts and so it is important that you will be able to trust this person. Though many people will say that the gender of your friend matters, it really does not matter and as long as you are able to talk and let things out, you will surely be able to move on faster.

Some people believe that you must find another person right away to be able to move on faster but this is not the path that you want to take because it will simply just be a temporary cure for the pain. Avoid having to jump from relationship to relationship as you want to heal and become a better person for the next person that comes along in your life. Take your time with relationships and don't just jump into one because you are currently heartbroken. Coping with painful breakups is certainly a tough thing to do but remember that life goes on and that you will certainly be able to get through the breakup.

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