When I broke up with my ex I thought I was going to prove a point but as I soon found out I was the one suffering. Far more than I ever thought I would. It wasn’t long before I was desperate to find how to get the ex back.

The damage I had done by my silly immature move was severe and the biggest issue was trust. Believe me when that goes then how to get your ex back is a whole lot harder.

For weeks that ran into months I tried to fix things but I was having no luck. I wasn’t even getting a response.

Talking to friends and family I was eventually told to move on with my life. Easy for them to say but they didn’t understand what I was going through.

Visiting our old haunts, watching TV, just any every day activity was a reminder of what I had and what I had foolishly thrown away.

The only contact I had was on Face Book and that was as a spectator using my sister‘s log in details as I had been ‘unfriended’ – that really hurt. Its no fun sitting on the sidelines and seeing that life is going on without you , almost as if you didn’t exist.

What was I to do to get my ex back?

Ironically it was Face Book that saved my relationship and me. Not directly but indirectly as there was an advert to join a forum to “meet other singles”.

I know what you are thinking – seedy, right? That’s what I thought too but when you are desperate you tend clutch at anything.

I’m not sure why I clicked on it – looking back I think it was a curiosity to see if there were others feeling the same as me and also trying to find how to get an ex back.

Fully expecting to see some seedy porn site (which I am not into) and ready to flee as soon as I did, I was amazed to find there were lots of people in the same boat as me.

Finally here was a group of people that understood what I felt, how desperate I was and how painful the process of moving on (even though I didn’t want to) really was.

So I took the plunge and posted my sad story. The replies were overwhelmingly supportive and before long my post was up to 5 pages and I had friends I had never met. It was awesome to have people who would listen and could understand.

That’s all I wanted really – was someone to talk to that would listen and understand what I was feeling.

It worked.

The information and advice that I was given was put into practice – after all I had nothing to lose – and before I knew it my ex and I were having coffee. Things are looking much more promising now.

The lesson I learned from this is not to give up- ever. Not if you really believe you had something special.

Please don’t give up on your relationship if you aren’t ready to.

And don’t be put off using the Internet or going online to some of the forums. You don’t even have to participate, just read the posts and understand you are not alone.

Best of luck and God bless in your search for how to get ex back.