All of us have probably been through a break up in our lives. Some of us when we were younger, some of us very recently. But I am sure we have all tried to find the answer to this question: How do I get my ex back after a break up?

Sometimes this is the wrong question to ask from the get go. Sometimes it’s in our best interest not to get them back. But if this is something that you really want to do, I will tell you what I did and it worked for me.

I tried to remember what were the things that bothered him the most and I promised myself to try and correct that about myself. Then I thought about all the things he enjoyed, and prepared a nice evening with the newest best video games available, prepared a great dinner and called him over.

However, this is just a first step towards getting your ex back after a break up. If you were the reason for the break up, you will have to demonstrate that you have changed the very things that bothered your partner so much, and not just by saying “I have changed”, but by backing this statement up with solid facts.

This is how I got my ex back after a break up. We had been in a relationship for 6 years, when the break up happened. It took me 7 months to get her back, so this is why I am saying it is not an easy process, it is not done just with words, it requires a change of attitude and state of mind in order to succeed.

For seven months we were in the testing phase, looking to see if things could work out between the two of us again, and since we both made efforts, were willing to compromise and understand each other, the approach finally paid off.

After all this time, I actually looked at this break up and the recovery time as a step forward in our relationship, something that taught us new things and new ways to make our life happier and more pleasant and helped us build a stronger, healthier future relationship.

Finally, this was the best thing for me, but when you find yourselves asking the question: How do I get my ex back after a break up, think first if this is really the best thing for you and your future.