Have you ever met a woman who does everything for her man? You start to feel sick as she goes on and on. She pays his bills, she washes his underwear, she cooks for him, she cleans up after him, She runs his errands, she bathes him etc. You get the picture right? She is willing to do anything to keep him happy. If you ask her what he does for her, she may look like a deer caught in headlights.

Did you also notice that many men who get the royal treatment usually aren't happy with their mates? Many of them despise the women who spoil them rotten. They constantly have outsiders telling them how fortunate they are to have a mate that's so dedicated.

Why should someone else have to tell him these things? Why can't he see this for himself? Spoiled men are usually the ones that are out on the prowl. They are either out looking for a fling on the side, or they want to replace their mate completely. Why would someone do this to such a devoted mate who bends over backwards for them?

Whether in romantic relationships, family relationships, or friendships, we need to have balance. It's good to be there for our loved ones when we can. It's a whole different ballgame when we are bending over backwards to make someone happy, and they don't even come close to returning the favor. The end result could be devastating for the giver in the relationship.

Eventually (she) the giving party would be all worn down while (he) the receiver is full of life. Why is this? Cause he didn't do anything! She does everything so shes tired while he's not. Once she is tired, worn down, and depleted from resources, he will be forced to make a move. He may choose to stay and act out in hurtful ways, or he may choose to leave her for greener pastures.

This can be a very devastating time for anyone who is in this type of relationship. Many women suffer depression or raging anger after experiencing this type of ordeal. They ask themselves, "How could he do this to me after all I have done for him"? They think about all of the sacrifices they have made, and for him to just move on without a care in the world seems inhuman.

The best way to deal with this type of situation is to do the following:

* We have to love ourselves first. We love ourselves by getting proper rest, eating healthy, setting healthy boundaries, putting our needs first, pampering ourselves etc. When women feel complete when they are single, then they may be ready for a healthy relationship. Self-love leads to healthier relationships.

* We must understand that giving a man everything isn't going to make him love us more.

* Avoid relationships with men who prefer a maid instead of a mate.

* Remember healthy relationships have balance. It's a give and take, not take and take .

* Learn how to say no! You can't possibly say yes to everything he wants, or anyone else for that matter.

* Tell him what you want from him. Men aren't usually good at reading our minds. We can't just assume he should know and get upset when things don't happen.