The moment you get dumped is one of the worst moments in life for many people. For some, it feels sort of like you've been blind-sided. You didn't see it coming at all and have no idea where to go from here. For others, you saw it written on the wall but didn't want to admit it to yourself. You expected it but are still completely devastate. Wherever you happen to fall within the spectrum it doesn't change the fact that getting dumped hurts – a LOT!

For now, you're not worried about the details. Your first thought, maybe your only thought, is about how much you are hurting. All you really want is to figure out what it will take to make the pain stop. The first thought or knee-jerk reaction as the case may be is often that getting your ex back will make the pain stop. It's understandable. You feel just like someone has taken your heart and placed a vice around it. The vice keeps tightening and tightening with no relief in sight. Getting back together should end that tightening and relieve your pain, right?

In some cases that absolutely might be just what you need to make the pain lessen a little bit. The problem is that there's something else that has to be done if you want to end the pain for good. Getting back together with your ex right now is a short-term fix and not a long-term solution by any means. If you don't make changes to make your relationship stronger you're going to be right back in the same pain a few weeks or months down the road. It's going to take a little more work this time around. You need to do a little more than just get your ex back if you want to end the pain you're feeling now once and for all.

The pain of getting dumped today is a drop in the bucket compared to what it will be like after you've gone through all of this and gotten back together only to get dumped again. Now is the time when you can begin making changes that will help your relationship grow stronger every day.

Now is the time you can turn your relationship around and make it what you've always believed it could be. It's the perfect time to start looking to the future and start working on small changes that will make a HUGE difference for you both. These little changes don't take a lot of effort but they can help you save your relationship after getting dumped today and always.