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I Want To Break Up – He Doesnt
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You want to break up with your boyfriend. Unfortunately, he doesn't want to let things go. You don't want to hurt him. You still care for him. You just don't want to date him anymore. How do you make him understand without causing him anymore pain than you've already caused?

You've gone through the gut-wrenching, heart-breaking process of breaking the heart of someone you once loved. It was tough making the decision to put your relationship to an end but you know, deep down inside, that it's the right thing to do and that now is the right time to do it. It's good that you are able to make these decisions and have even tried to fill him in on the details. It's much better to do it sooner rather than later. Putting it off will only make things so much worse in the end.

The good news, if there is any such thing in a situation like this, is that your boyfriend probably isn't going to turn into some stalker over this even if he is reluctant to take "no" for an answer in the beginning. Chances are that he's already starting the process of grieving, in his own way, for the loss of your relationship. One of the steps in the grieving process is denial. It may take him a few days to realize that you've called the relationship off but most men in this situation do come around to it.

That doesn't mean he's going to give up without a fight. Even if you feel as though you've fallen out of love with him, that doesn't mean that he's stopped loving you. He can't just turn it off like you do a lamp. It's going to take a little time for him to slow his feelings and he may entertain thoughts that he can save your relationship and make things work out between you.

It's really important – if you are serious about calling it quits – that you don't waver or falter in your stance on the issues. If you're ending the relationship don't let him believe you're thinking about staying together. It will confuse him and give him hope when there isn't any. It's a lose-lose situation for everyone involved and it doesn't make you look like the good guy, or girl in this case, at all. If you are willing to take your ex back and give it another shot then now is a great time to let him know and work together to avoid the disaster you were heading towards.


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