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Is It Possible To Get Her Back Again? The Truth Is Surprising
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Is It Possible To Get Her Back Again? The Truth Is Surprising

Yes it is possible to get her back if you understand all about the female psyche and what makes them tick after a break up. Learn exactly what she is thinking about you after the break up and make her desire you again.

Lately you have been asking yourself if it is possible to get her back again after your break up. This depends on a lot of things and every situation is different. If she was the one that broke up with you then you may be thinking that it is impossible to win back her love. Think again. The truth is that break ups are very easy to reverse if you do the right things. You have to know how the female mind works following a split, what she will be thinking of you and what she expects you to do. When you understand these things you will have the upper hand and become highly attractive to her again.

Your Actions After The Break Up

If she was the one that ended the relationship then she will want some space from you. Obviously she had her reasons for breaking up with you as she was unhappy in some way. What she needs from you right now is to stay away from her while she is emotional or coming to terms with the split. This is the best option for you too as you will get to compose yourself and deal with the shock. It will also ensure that you do not end up saying something that you soon regret.

What Is She Thinking After The Break Up?

She will probably not want to see you immediately after the break up as this will confuse her and make her think that you are desperate. When you stay away from her, she will start to miss you and question her decision, so this is a good tactic. The truth is that she will be thinking about you a lot in the days and weeks after the break up. Just because someone ends things, it does not mean that there are not feelings of attachment and love still there. It would not be natural if she turned her feelings off like a tap. She is probably pining for you in some way and curious about what you are doing. She will also be interested in knowing how you are dealing with the break up and looking out for signs that you are hurt.

How To Attract Her Back To You

Now that you know what will be going through her head, you will have to think about your next actions. Sometimes the best thing that you can do is nothing at all. This is very true in the days after your break up actually. If she expects you to contact her and try to change her mind, you will instead disappear from sight. You have probably heard a lot about reverse psychology before and this can be very effective when you use it in the right way. Be subtle so that you are gently pulling her back towards you. The last thing that you want is to make her think that you are playing games with her, there is a very fine line here.

If you want her to be attracted to you again, you have to be like you were when you first met. This will inevitably involve you maintaining an air of mystery about you. It is a good idea to appear independent again and make your life seem happy and worthwhile, despite how miserable you may be feeling. People are attracted to those who have a positive outlook on life, so pretend for a while if you have to, in public anyway.

Be Mysterious

This is what you were to her before you went out at first. She pined for you and wondered about what you were like. This is the kind of feeling that you have to create in her again if you want to be successful in getting her back. A large part of this is acting in a way that she doesn't expect. I'm not saying that you have to become an idiot or be rude to her. Just show her a different aspect of your personality or life that she never saw before and this will pique her interest in you.

Your Next Step

This is obviously just touching the surface of what she is thinking, what you should be doing and how attraction works. There is so much more to learn if you want to get your ex girlfriend back. Knowledge is power, the more you read on the subject, and the more you heed the advice of relationship experts, the more confident and determined you will feel. You have everything that you need to get your ex back, so do not feel disheartened, there is always a way back into her heart if you are smart about it. The first thing that you will need to do now is to look out for clues she still likes you so that you know exactly where you stand. Then you will want to start to make her miss you so that you will get underneath her skin and she will start to contact you again out of desperation.

Street Talk


Ok, I know how foolish a lot of this is going to be, like I know I shouldn't have been dating a girl who was involved with someone else and I should probably just walk away, but I don't want to. I love her. So please read my story and tell me if you think it's really over. I have loved this girl for over 10 years,while I was in a 3 year relationship with one girl and a 6 year marriage with another. We always wanted to be with each other but the circumstances never worked out, I was married, lived 2k miles away, she was in a relationship, etc just over a year ago I moved back to get over my divorce. She had been in a live in relationship for a few years so we just hung out as friends and it really was that way, I didn't believe I had any shot at all until one night we both got drunk and kissed. For the next year we never went more than 24 hours without contact, until today, now it's been 28 hours... After the kiss we hung out for about 2 weeks before we finally slept together, at which point she revealed to me that she hadn't slept with her boyfriend in over a year. She swore she loved him and they were best friends and she displayed a massive amount of guilt. Pretty soon we were together 3-5 times a week. We would start hanging out at 10 am and all of a sudden it would be 5 am. Time just flew by. She understood me in a way no one ever has and made me feel away I never knew I could, but she wouldn't leave her boyfriend. She kept saying she was going to but she couldn't stand the idea of hurting him...she actually had some valid reasons for putting it all off. I know how that sounds but she did. Anyway, I obviously grew frustrated and insecure with the relationship. I love her more than I knew I could love and I grew terrified that she wasn't going to leave him and I was "the other woman" and then just the sheer wondering what would happen when she went home to him....It drove me nuts...literally. I became obsessive, manipulative, and pressuring. The sad part is, she is just like me, so if I had never made her feel pressured she would've done it on her own...I found this out later for certain, but I didn't do that. I was passive aggressive and pressuring. She read my manipulation like a book because we are just alike. She knew exactly what I was doing and it pushed her away. We still hung out and had a great time many times a week but the sex stopped and eventually the kissing and so forth. She quit trusting me. Well about two months ago I dropped all pressure and quit the passive aggressive stuff and low and behold she broke up with him. We had been planning a trip for a long time and it happened immediately after the breakup. After she broke up with him she felt a massive amount of guilt for hurting him, pulled back drastically, and said she'd go on the trip but only as friends. She didn't want to feel guilty or pressured and she didn't want to jump straight into something serious with me. I understood all of that and said ok, but then I had two days to think and (over)analyze her words. When we arrived things were fine and she was actually very flirty. If I could have controlled myself it actually may have been the perfect weekend. She was feeling easy and comfortable with me. Then I got drunk and acted like a wild animal, I threw a tantrum, I screamed, I let off 9 months of frustration. I got black out drunk. She said I terrified her and terrorized her all night and she stayed up all night crying. The next day she told me that we would never under any circumstance be in a relationship. I reminded her of the weak manipulator I had been for so many months and not the cool guy she fell for and had been the previous two months. She acted like she had figured out a she discovered the real lying me and my tantrum confirmed every doubt she had about me. After she told me that I cried and wailed and begged for forgiveness. I was a complete sloppy mess. After a day to cool off and get over stuff I woke up the next morning embarrassed and sad but I knew it was just drunken idiocy and not the real me. So I put it behind me and didn't drink the rest of the weekend. I just laughed and had a good time. At the end of the weekend we ended up sleeping together but she was very drunk. She didn't seem to regret it and on the drive home she even asked if I wanted to hang out the next day. Of course I did. She never acted like we were cool or going to be in a relationship but at least we were having fun. we hung out the next day and had fun and she texted me all night. Yesterday I did something, I'm not even sure what, via text that reminded her of all the bad stuff and she just immediately stopped texting me and now I haven't heard from her since. On the trip she told me it was over, and then it was like she needed to adjust to it, and then she just quit. I'm hoping I may have1 chance left idk

  about 9 years ago
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