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Understanding if your relationship is on the right track
At the start of any relationship, everything will seem perfect. With both parties putting their best foot forward and doing the most they can to impress and attract the other, it is easy to feel as if the relationship is a good one with the potential to last. This is the case for most new relationships. In the beginning, you can feel excited and happy when you're around the other person.
This gives you that extra energy that allows you to present yourself in the best possible manner while at the same time your new partner is doing the same for you. These passionate feelings will eventually fade which can deteriorate the relationship to the point that it comes to an end. If you're looking to find out if your relationship is on the right track for long term success, there are several things that you can key in on to find this out.
Understand the kind of relationship your in
Communicate with your partner to find out how serious they are of the relationship and express to them your thoughts on this subject as well. If the couple is not in the point of their lives where they may be looking for a serious and long term relationship, it may be best to take a step back, enjoy your time together and prepare yourself to move on when the time arrives. Likewise, if one or both of you do not view the current relationship as a long term option, this again is an easy indicator that your relationship will eventually derail if it is drawn out for too long.
However, if you and your partner find that you both consider yourself in a committed and serious relationship and are both in a position where you can manage that, it may be time to investigate certain characteristics of relationship that will be able to tell you whether or not this relationship is on the right track for long term success.
One such characteristic is to figure out if you and your partner are improving on your friendship as time passes bye. If you find that you are not getting along with your partner any better than in the beginning of the relationship, this is a sign that it will eventually fizzle out as the spark slowly dies. If you do find that your friendship is growing with your partner as time goes on, it is a safe bet that it will continue to grow stronger. If this is not happening naturally, it can sometimes help to make an extra effort in the short term and use that to jumpstart the growth of a friendship.
Communication
Communicating with your partner should be expanding and growing deeper as time goes on. As you spend more time together and get to know each other, you and your partner should feel more comfortable discussing personal issues as well as speaking your mind when it comes to the relationship.
This kind of communication should always be improving and progressing with time. As we grow together, the experiences and troubles you go through will strengthen your bond and enable you to feel better about expressing yourself on a deeper level to your partner. If this is not happening, this is a sign that your chemistry is off and you are not the best fit for one another.
The most important factor is determining whether or not you are enjoying yourself more with your partner then you were without them. If you find that you are not as happy or are becoming less happy over time, it is not often that there will be any reason for that trend to change.
Over the course of several years, you will continue to lose any enjoyment that you get out of the relationship and will find yourself in a poor situation. Not only have you invested a lot of time in a bad relationship but you may also have altered your life with that relationship in mind. The result can make it difficult for you to return to the single life.
With any relationship, it is important to be able to understand and recognize whether or not you are on a good path or not. If you find that you are not, it may be a good idea to work on improving your relationship. Make an effort to improve your relationship beyond romance, find more activities you can do together and work on improving your communication with each other. If you still find that things are not working out, it is less likely best at this point to part ways and find a better match for yourself.
I don't know Ken, maybe I'm cynical, but if you have to work so hard at being happy with someone, then maybe it's best to part ways, but as friends. Maybe you're just not compatible. So many of us are conditioned to accept crap from people, to the point that we don't even recognize abuse or a mismatch when it's right in front of us. When it is so difficult to have a meeting of the minds, and if you are happier alone than with your partner, then I think you should go solo until you find a compatible partner.
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