None of us ever think in the beginning of a relationship that it will ever end. It’s just the opposite. You are certain the love will last a lifetime. Sometimes relationships end because we forget that it takes two to fight and two to make it work.

What you need to keep in mind is that just because you have disagreements it doesn’t mean you don’t love each other. Things might be different, but it doesn’t mean that the love is gone.

In my opinion, fighting can be about many different things. There could be underlying insecurities coming to the surface, or maybe the two of you just don’t agree on what a relationship is ‘supposed’ to be like.

You don’t have to be velcro’d to your partner 24/7 to show that you are a couple. Some people seem to think that you should do everything together. Oh, lordy, that would drive me insane.

If the two of you are together all the time, it won’t take long before you have nothing to talk about! Talk about having a stale and boring relationship! You might find yourselves fighting more just to have something to do.

Each of you should have hobbies or interests that you pursue separately. You will feel more fulfilled as a person and you will have some new experiences to share with your partner.

The flip side of the coin is where one partner is constantly gone. Whether they are working or just hanging out with friends doesn’t really matter, the partner left behind feels neglected and unloved. Neglecting your partner is a good way to cause a breakup.

Another sore spot in relationships is money. Fights often start over how the money is saved or spent. These issues can take a while to resolve, especially so if one of you is a saver and the other a spender.

This is where a compromise is going to have to be reached. If you are pooling your money, you will have to make some decisions and stick to them. There needs to be some money allocated for savings and some for spending. This way each of you is comfortable.

Relationships that last over the long haul are the ones where the partners have learned the art of compromise. Compromise isn’t about winning or losing, it’s about being mature enough to make things work for both of you.

Being in love and learning to live in harmony with one another is a wonderful thing. If it weren’t, you wouldn’t see couples that are married for 40 years or more.

Making a relationship work starts with sitting down and discussing things that could cause fights before it becomes and issue. If you work things out before they become problems, agree on how to handle the situation and you won’t need to worry too much about fighting.