Your girlfriend's gone and now you feel like your heart is going to explode right out of your chest? Sound a bit familiar? Many men experience this sensation at a time like this. It's a heartache to be sure but the pain feels like it will never end. For many mean, this may be the first time you've felt anything remotely like this. You have no idea where to turn or what your next move should be. All you know is that the pain you're feeling right here and right now seems like a little more than you ever thought you'd be able to take.

You don't really care that it's normal, do you? You just want to make it stop. Most men assume that getting their girlfriends back will be the perfect way to make the hurting stop. Others feel that there is no hope and wallow in their own sense of doom, gloom, and despair. Others realize that getting your girlfriend back right now might seem appealing but it isn't going to be the quick and easy fix that so many other men in this situation believe it will be.

You understand that her leaving is only part of the pain. Some men feel a pinprick of pride at a time like this. Other men realize at moments like this just how much their girlfriend really did mean to them. You know the old saying "you don't know what you've got til it's gone". It's true. Most of the time people don't realize how special their marriages and relationship are until they are over. But that doesn't mean it has to be the end for you or your marriage. There is something you can do – even now – that will help you get your ex back for good.

Don't follow in the footsteps of many who've gone before you and run the risk of driving her away by being there for her too much after your relationship has ended. When the relationship ends, it's time for her to see what life is like without you. Stop being her rock, shoulder, solace, ATM, or late night phone call buddy. End all contact and give her a chance to really FEEL your absence from her life.

After a month, it's time to turn on the charm and make your grand re-appearance in her life. Reveal to her the same old – brand new you. It sounds contradictory but you're going to be the old you – only better. That is what's going to win her over and what will ultimately save your relationship by making her fall in love with you all over again.