When you first discover that your ex boyfriend is dating someone new, it can seem like the end of the world. No matter how long ago you two broke up, him dating another girl is a huge bug sign to you that he has moved on and that it is over for good. Is this really the case though?

You should never accept things at face value. To understand the real reasons that your ex boyfriend is seeing someone else, you have to examine your own personal situation closely and discover a little bit about male psychology. Did it never dawn on you that he is trying to prove something to himself and force himself to move on? Have you ever considered the possibility that this could be a rebound? Whilst it is essential that you do not get your hopes up and assume that his new relationship is doomed to fail, you should never assume the worst either.

Why Your Ex Boyfriend Seems To Have Moved On So Quickly

Did you dump him? Maybe his desire to get back on the horse has stemmed from a lot of pain and anger. He wants to forget about you and is attempting to move on in whatever way possible. He may like this girl sure, but he will always be measuring her up to you if you are the one that he really wants. This new girl really doesn't stand a chance and he knows it. It is just his way of quelling the pain that you have caused him.

He could also be trying to prove a point and make you jealous, if your break up was messy and he got hurt in the process, the most common reaction for him is to hit out at you and make you feel the same kind of hurt. It's not mature and it is unfair, but it is a very natural reaction to a break up, so try to see beyond appearances here and realise that not everything is as it seems.

Your Best Course Of Action - Do Not Interfere

You must allow him to have this time with his new girl, no matter how hurtful it is or how much you want to yank out her hair. Staying away from your ex boyfriend whilst he discovers this new relationship is crucial. You want the honeymoon phase to stop and let him discover that she is not the one for him. When they have been together long enough, the initial glow should wear off and they should begin to really see who the real person is beneath.

This is when your ex boyfriend will logically come to his own conclusions, without any interference from you. You have to allow this natural process to unfold if you are to stand any chance of getting him back. Rushing in there and demanding answers, slagging his new girlfriend off, or pleading on him to take you back are extremely ugly qualities. It will only serve to make you look childish and spiteful - why would your ex boyfriend want to get back together with someone like that? You have to think carefully before you react here.

Stay away from both of them, don't offer an opinion to anyone should you be asked - you never know who could be passing things on to him through the grapevine. Be mature and dignified in your approach because your ex boyfriend will be looking towards you for clues about how you are taking his new relationship. You want him to be impressed by your composure as this is the precursor to reigniting his attraction and interest in you.

Biding Your Time

The time is going to come when you're not only fully prepared to strike and he's going to be receptive to your advance. In order to determine the right moment, pay attention to his body language. This is a man you used to know extremely well - you probably know his signals better than he does. Just because he's been seeing someone else doesn't mean that he's a completely different person. If he was you probably wouldn't be putting this much effort into getting him back. Once you're positive that his signals are encouraging an advance, return them and get prepared for the fireworks.

He's still involved in a new relationship and that adds an extra level of excitement to any connection that the two of you share. You get to be the "other woman" at least temporarily. Given the circumstances, bump your patience up to the next level. Don't be pushy and expect him to abandon his relationship just because something is redeveloping. You want to give him the idea and let him handle things in his own way - and on his own time, that way you can get him back much quicker.

Never Be Intimate With Your Ex Boyfriend When He Is Still In A Relationship

Be warned - as tempting as it may be you probably want to avoid hopping back into bed with your ex while he's still involved. If he gets the impression that he can have both of you at least for a temporary period of time, he won't be in any rush to end things with her and move forward into a new relationship with you. In fact, taking your connection to a new physical level may put your efforts on hold and delay and further action on his part. You've passed all the major boundaries that were thrown at you - you don't want it all to blow up in your face now.

What Next?

You have only just scraped the surface of how you should be behaving if there is another girl on the scene. Your next step is to ensure that you avoid these break up mistakes that women make at all costs. If you are guilty of committing any of these grave errors in judgement, please stop now before he pushes you away for good.

After that you will need to work out how to make him attracted to you again behind the scenes. Whilst he is with this new girl you shouldn't be just waiting around and doing nothing. This is your time to make him notice you again in a subtle and powerful way that makes use of male psychology.