Your heart is breaking because your boyfriend dumped you. You have no idea what your next move should be. Should you try to get your boyfriend back or should you just hide away from the world a little while – until the pain goes away? What should you do now?

This is the state of many women in your position who have been completely blind-sided and caught unaware by a relationship breakup. No one likes to be dumped. It's doubly hard when you were completely not expecting it and still totally in love with your boyfriend. In fact some women feel doubly betrayed at a time like this. There's no easy way to recover from having your heartbroken but this might not be the best time to go and try to get your boyfriend back either. Hiding away from the world and licking your wounds alone is just a way to amplify the loneliness you're feeling and may lead to acts of desperation in an attempt to get your ex back. That isn't a good idea either.

Here's what you need to do instead. Start by rounding up your friends and lining up a full calendar of things to do and people to see to keep your mind off your own personal heartache. As difficult as it may seem you need to go out and spend the evening enjoying the company of your friends and family and not home alone pining over the one who got away. Make the most of your time with these friends and try not to bring your sorrow into the moment. If you try to have fun or fake it 'til you make it you might surprise yourself to discover that you do not need to try so hard before too long. This is when, if you're still inclined to do so you can begin thinking about how to get your ex back.

If you really want to get your ex back, you'll find that you are able to think with a clearer head after you've managed to have a few great nights with friends and aren't feeling quite as desperate to win him back. Desperation leads to desperate acts that will do much more harm for your cause than good. More importantly, when you're working with a clear head you'll be much better prepared to come up with an effective strategy to get your boyfriend back after he's dumped you.