It's hard to believe that your husband could cheat on you. Questions start racing through your mind like: "Was this my fault? How didn't I see it coming?"

The answer is: No! His affair was not your fault. The cause of the affair was that he was not getting an emotional need met. This need was to be ADMIRED.

(Men will check out of a relationship when they don't feel admired anymore.)

So if you learn how to show him this admiration - and you don't have to denigrate yourself or anything - he will instinctively come back to you and leave the other woman.

How to catch his interest again

The media has brainwashed us into thinking that men typically go after women who have great bodies and blonde hair.

WRONG.

Men go after women who admire them. It's that simple. Men have an innate need to feel strong. Maybe it's just ego, maybe it's an old hunter-gatherer instinct from the cave days... who knows.

But the point is: if your husband doesn't feel admired by you, he will look for this admiration somewhere else. (Like another woman, online.)

Online affairs are very easy to have. You can be in the comfort of your own home and emailing and texting someone, and your spouse doesn't even know about it.

Now, the good news is:

1. You can get him interested in you again.

2. It's very easy to get him interested in you again.

What you need to do is shift your focus away from his affair. Maybe he's had some fling with another woman online.... maybe not. (That other woman could be a 50-year-old fat balding man with back hair and a forearm tattoo masquerading as a woman, for all you know.)

The point is: your marriage is suffering because he doesn't find you attractive anymore.

So you need to:

First, make a list of your favorite hobbies, passions, and interests.

Second, adopt a healthy diet, and an exercise plan. Doesn't have to be fancy - 30 minutes a day will do, so long as you're consistent.

Third, start pursuing those hobbies, passions, and interests.

What will happen is that you will start to transform. You will go from being just a "not very appealing housewife" to a strong, confident, attractive woman in his eyes. Suddenly he'll think: "Wow! Where'd this babe come from? She's totally hot! And she's my wife!"

And he'll be all over you again. The key is to go after the things YOU want. You don't need to cater to his whims. You need to do what makes you feel confident and sexy. And when you feel it, other people will see it.