The grim reaper has finally come to claim death to your marriage, but you’re still not willing to give up. That’s awesome. You’ve been together with your spouse for as long as you can remember, and the last thing you want to do is get a divorce. You love your spouse so much but you see the future spiraling down faster than the financial market. What you need to do is get yourself ready to stand back up and fight for your love.

Stare Your Problems Right In the Face

The problem with being passive aggressive is that the problems and issues you guys are having are not going to fix themselves. Not only that, some of us don’t get your hints so clearly. So please, do yourself and your spouse a favor by staring down your problems together, not just by yourself. It took the two of you to get together. Now the both of you should face the bad together as well.

Open Your Lines Of Communication

See, the problem with a lot of relationships is that the man either doesn’t want to discuss his feelings and feels harassed when asked to. Or, the woman feels as though she is being ignored and nothing is getting solved. The real issue is that the both of you are not communicating anymore. Communication is absolutely essential in order to save your relationship. In fact, it should be your number 1 priority.

Fixing your relationship is an effort done by the BOTH of you to communicate. How do you communicate? Speak to each other without yelling. Write each other letters. Email each other. I know you guys are living together, but giving each other a letter helps open up the lines of communication. So get writing.

Surprise!

Wow, really this is the most simplest of the three. Ask yourself, have you done everything you could to make your spouse feel loved? Since you’re looking for ways on how to stop a divorce from happening to you, obviously you haven’t. It is so simple. Really. Just go home one night and be spontaneous. And oh, please make sure that it does not lead to sex at first.

You’re intention is to surprise your spouse with something super special. Maybe going to that restaurant she’s been talking about. Or maybe going out to a bar with him to reconnect, without the kids, without the drama, and with a little booze, haha. The alcohol will help lower your inhibitions. But remember to stay calm and not use the booze as an excuse to argue! You’re out to have fun remember.

These three tips will certainly help your relationship get better, especially the last tip. By surprising your spouse, it will spark a fire that will be hard to put out. Honestly, you both are feeling a little burnt out, so why not rekindle that fire? Go out there and have fun with each other. That way, you’ll actually be doing what’s necessary in saving your relationship from Death.