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Saving A Relationship – Your Very First Move
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Saving a relationship that is already broken can be very difficult. Even relationship experts suffer from relationship break ups so if you have just broken up with your partner, how are you supposed to know what to do to get them back?

The truth is what most people do are the wrong things and only succeed in making the situation far worse! If you have recently suffered a relationship break up and want to get your ex back fast, then knowing the first the move is essential otherwise they may never come back.

Knowing the first move to get your ex back is essential because it forms the start point of a plan. If you have just split up with your partner or you feel that you are on the verge of a relationship break up you must take action and have a plan.

When relationships break down people suffer from a great deal of emotional pain and experience a feeling of loss that is akin to a bereavement. There are usually a lot of unanswered questions and feeling ranging from anger and guilt to self pity. During this time rational thinking goes out of the window and this is when the situation can spiral out of control.

Now this may seem a little unconventional as we are talking about saving a relationship but the number one thing you must if you truly want to save your relationship is agree with the break up.

This is the thing that most people get wrong at the very outset. If you’re boyfriend wants to break up with you or your girlfriend has just walked out on you no amount of begging, pleading or apologising is going to get them back initially, so the very first move you must make is to agree with the break up.

It would be even better if you were to say something like “I was also thinking this too, as I don’t think things have really been working out”. Let me clarify, I am not saying agree with the break up and walk away. The purpose here is to get your ex to fall back in love with you and to save your relationship so this is the very first move in a plan to do this.

In a time of emotional pain and heartbreak the suggestion of agreeing to the break up may seem crazy but remember the old saying: “If you love something enough let it go. If it comes back to you it will be yours forever. If it does not come back to you it was never yours to begin with”.

Letting go is the initial move in a larger plan that will not only enable you to get your ex back to fall back in love with you it will ensure that they stay there for the long term. Taking action and having a plan are essential if you truly want to win the heart back of your ex and agreeing with the break up is my number one step for saving a relationship.

Most people only consider saving a relationship after it has broken down. What most people don't realise is the things you do at this time are usually the wrong things which results in you pushing your ex partner further away. What you do during this period is critical if your really do want to get your ex back.


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