Are you what people consider a stalker, or do you have someone stalking you? First let us discuss the definition of a stalker. When you tell someone to stay away, and they just keep passing by your house or filling up your inbox with text messages that is a problem. Hopefully you have not had this problem. Even more so, hopefully you are not one of the people being refered to as a stalker.

It can be a really scary thing after a break-up or a misunderstanding and a second party is harrassing you. Harrassment is when one has made it clear that he or she would like whatever actions are bothering him or her to stop, but the opposite party continues the behavior. Wheather it be constantly passing by your home or workplace, or repetitive calls, this behavior is unacceptable. If this is a continuous problem charges can be pressed and the perpetrator could be prosecuted. When one finds themselves in this situation, it maybe necessary to contact local autoriteis for safety and protection. We never want to have to take these kind of messures when it comes to someone we may have cared for at one time, but this situation could get dangerous. Protect yourself.

Do you find yoruself obsessively wondering what your ex is doing? Take my advice, and find something to keep you busy. Your ex friend or ex signifigant other is not interested anymore. Just becuase it may not have been over for you, it is over for them. Stop the harrassing phone calls, do not show up unexpectedly at their door. The relationship is over and your ex- friend does not want to be contacted. Sure it was a blow to the heart, or maybe the ego, but it is possible to move one and find meaning in life again. Besides, you cannot win someone back this way. You are only making a fool of yourself and possibly getting yourself into some legal trouble. If you are truely thinking of winning this person back, being a stage five clinger is not the sloution. This is a major turn off and not to mention highly annoying. Give it time. Maybe after awhile things will mend themselves and forgiveness will happen. Start a new project to keep yourself busy and take your mind off the loss. Stalking and obsessing about the situation is not going to solve anything.

On the opposite end you may currently be a victim of obsessive behavior. Understand if you have told someone to stay away, than he or she needs to say away. Do not let your bounderies be crossed. It is not okay for someone to harrass and cause mental stress. Change your number, and if necessary, let the local authorites know what is going on for your own safety. So if you have stalker syndrome, kick the habbit, and if you have got a stalker in your life, RUN FOR IT!