Winning your ex-boyfriend back can be much easier than you are probably thinking at the moment. If you have only just broken up, then the best thing you can do right now is leave him alone. Whether you argued and made hurtful comments or not, he will be wanting some time and space to try to get over the break up. Allow him the time he needs, respect his feelings and resist the urge to contact him for several weeks.

This also allows you some time to consider whether getting back together is really what you want, or if you are doing it because it seems like the safe option. Think carefully about it, and if you decide that you do want to try to get him back, be prepared to try hard.

Once you have made your decision to get him back, take a good look at your appearance. Chances are, over the course of the relationship, you would have spent less time and effort taking care of yourself. It is time for that to change. Consider having a new haircut or buying some new clothes. Making sure you look good will help you to catch his eye again.

You can also use this time to get involved in some new hobbies. It's a perfect time to have a go at that activity you always wanted to try, but kept finding excuses not to do. You may not feel like moving on with your life, but if you want to get back with your ex, showing him that you can manage without him will make him want you more.

A few weeks after the break up, you should try to get in contact with him again. It is possible that he won't answer your phone call - don't worry about this, just leave him a message asking if the two of you can meet. If he doesn't respond to this, then he may just be nervous - it is not necessarily a sign that he does not want to give the relationship another go.

Instead of phoning and getting no response, arrange to "casually" bump into him somewhere. Smile and be polite, try to put him at ease. If he can become comfortable talking to you again, it is more likely that the two of you can get back together. Don't give up, you can get back with your ex and make it work in a long term relationship.