So your relationship is going through tough times, it didn’t work out for you this time around either. Try learning from the past and applying it to what your heart desires, even if it's desires are to get your ex back. Here are a few steps on how to get your ex back.

Prove to your ex partner that you have learned from past mistakes.

Examine what went wrong before and be careful to what they have complaints about. Some of them may have no true grounds, but you should admit that they are right at least in certain matters.

Remind them through your behavior why they fell in love with you in the first place.

Think of the person you were when you two first fell in love and the person you have become by the end of the relationship. Maybe if you were more eager to go out in clubs when you first met, then you should try to go out more now with friends and try to meet with your ex and their friends. If at the beginning of your relationship you were more successful in your career, then maybe it’s time to become ambitious again in order to attain the same level of success.

Be there for them.

No matter how painful the separation was, you can leave an extraordinary impression if you put aside old resentments and are there as a friend. This is one of the most important steps on how to get your ex back. But at the same time you should make your ex perceive that things are not the same as before, that there are limits, now that you are just friends. Be the first to finish the conversation most of the times. Allow them to call you sometimes.

Act like a winner.

Friends can be a pretty deceiving jury. They might have something to say about your separation. Friends have a certain influence on your ex that maybe no one else has. IF they did not like you before, all you have to do is show them that you are not as bad as they thought you were. If you can promote yourself, then do it.

Remember the good times.

Memories are the strongest weapon to make your ex see the light. Certainly you have many memories together, pleasant or romantic. Help them remember the good times, but bring them up in the talk as if it were by chance.

Be optimistic.

Sadness and depression do not bring you any benefits when it comes to steps on how to get your ex back. What's less attractive than self pity. Be optimistic, happy and joyful, it’s catching. Do not be too straight forward about wanting them back. The worst thing you can do is fall at their feet. You must show them that you are in control.

I hope you have found these tips useful as they have helped me in the past. Just know, they are only the first steps. There are many other aspects you must overcome. But you have the strength with in you to make it happen.