I know you are in pain from your breakup; you feel lost and that there is no hope. Many of us have been in a relationship that eventually ends in a bad way. You feel like you have lost the person that is right for you just like that. However, each time I went through a devastating breakup, I learned more and more every single time about myself, dating, relationships, the mind games involved, and the psychology.

In this article, I will give you proven strategies and methods that will help you get your ex back as fast as 30 days. Although it is written for the men who want to get their ex-girlfriends back, I am sure that the ladies will find valuable information here too.

First Mistake: Being Impulsive

Most of the mistakes made by people in the process of trying to get their ex-girlfriends back are a result of being impulsive. We get into a desperate mindset. So we begin to call or text our ex partner constantly. As a matter of fact, it is a big mistake to even call her once. Your instincts may tell you that if you continuously stay in contact, then she won’t forget you and hopefully answer. Unfortunately this just makes you look needy and miserable -- not attractive at all to her.

How to Stop Doing It

I know how hard it is to break any contact with a person that you have spent a lot of time with but this is the way to go. I want you to think of the no contact rule as some form of detox for your mind and body. Although it is pretty challenging to go on for up to 30 days or even more just to play with your Ex’s psychology to make them want to be with you, you will soon realize that it is doing you more good than harm. one way is to delete phone number of your ex from your phone. I know this is drastic but if you can’t abstain yourself calling her this might be the best option for you.

Second Mistake: Begging

It’s a natural reaction for the mind to panic when you see a threat to your security. And when your mind panics, it tries to do all it can to get your ex to stay.

Whatever the actual motive for your break was, things will not change due to your begging. Begging will only make you seem insecure and weak. No partner loves that guy or a girl, who is needy. You plead or beg only if you need some thing back in your life. The unfortunate truth is that nobody takes back their ex’s out of pure pity.

How to Stop Doing it

Now is the time to concentrate on things other than your ex girlfriend. Take up a new hobby, call your friends for support. Don't be afraid to share how you're feeling with them. The important thing is to focus on yourself right now, not her.

Third Mistake: Continuing to Be Affectionate

The emotional part of your mind right now is saying that if your ex girlfriend just realizes how much you love her and care for her, she'll come back. No -- she already knows that. She's still decided to break up with you, and being super affectionate won't change that. It will actually have the opposite affect and make her more turned off.

How to Stop Doing It

Keeping your distance, once again, is how you can stop being overly affectionate. No texting, calling, Facebook stalking, meeting by mistake, or meeting with common friends to "possibly" see her again. She needs time and space right now to get her feelings straight -- and you need time and space to figure out your next move.

The next thing you can do to get her back is to learn the 3 steps you absolutely need in order to get her to fall back in love with you and keep her in love with you. She will pursue you once you know what to do...