If you are looking to save your relationship before a break up becomes inevitable, then you have already taken the most difficult step and admitted that there is a problem.

However, figuring out what that problem is will require both of you to work together.

The first thing you will need to do is talk to your partner, saying that you have some concerns about the relationship.

Whether you have noticed that the two of you are becoming distant, perhaps even avoiding each other, or whether you are now constantly arguing, you need to find out what each of you is currently thinking.

You may discover that the problems have been ongoing for a long time, and perhaps developed into a major issue from what was initially a small irritation.

In order to save your relationship, you will both need to be honest about what you are thinking and feeling at this point in time. If you both still love each other, then it will be possible to save your relationship, if you can work together at it.

It may feel as though the two of you have simply drifted apart over time. This is often the case in long term relationships, particularly if the two of you have been living together.

In this type of situation, the most effective way to save your relationship is to try and bring back the romance, and the spark of attraction that you would both have felt when you initially met.

Try going out on dates again, just like you used to do, and bring the fun back into your relationship. Forget about all the boring household chores, and just focus on the two of you. The rest, after all, will still be there later.

Guys, try bringing home a box of chocolates for a bunch of flowers occasionally, just to show your girlfriend that you care about her, rather than because it is a special occasion. Also, girls love these items.

One of you could cook a romantic meal to enjoy by candlelight, if you don’t feel like going out. There are lots of small things you can do to make the relationship feel exciting again.

However, if you are serious about saving your relationship and staying together long term, then the most important thing you can (and should) do is talk to each other about what you want, and what you can do in order to achieve this.

The worst thing you can do to save your relationship is to pretend to be someone else. Are you trying too hard to keep your partner happy? Don't try too hard to do so. Just be yourself.