This is one question I am sure all of you have asked yourselves at least once in your life: What should I do to get my ex back?. There are multiple answers, which I found in my own life experience and in those of my friends.

One thing I would like to tell you first, though. Getting your ex back is not always the best thing for you and your future. So before asking yourself “What should I do to get my ex back” you should ask yourself first what is it that you need exactly and what best responds to these needs. If the answer is that your ex is the convenient option, then you can go on reading this story, to see how you can actually get him back.

You can try seducing your partner all over again, reconstruct your first dates, try to recreate the atmosphere, the mood, the emotions. You shouldn’t mention any of the recent misunderstandings, recent problems, try to keep all your conversations about happy things, things which bring you serenity, not anger.

Then try to make your ex perceive the change in you, that you are not the same person they decided to break up with and the reasons that forced them to make that decision no longer exist. You should do more than just say that, you should act like it.

Try to please your partner more, organize more of the activities you know they enjoy, even if these activities don’t necessarily include you. You will be appreciated even more for this, for granting them freedom to move, actually organizing and planning such outings for them, without the need to control, share or be present. It will give them a feeling of altruism and freedom, and this a very useful feeling to awaken, especially if before you had jealousy problems or alone outings issues.

A general thing to do in answer to the question: “What should I do to get my ex back” is to be less offensive, if that is the case, to offer more, compromise more, listen more, smile more, love more, leave pride aside for more than one occasion and try to put your partner’s wishes and needs first for a while, and see where that will take you.

None of this guarantees that you will actually get your partner back, but it’s somewhere to start and it might just do the trick for you. So good luck.