In this article I'm going to tell you what to do when you get dumped and share with you some secret psychological tips which will help you get your girlfriend back.

Ok, so you've been dumped and no one likes that feeling. If everyone's honest, it's a feeling that makes us feel sick to the stomach. The feeling of rejection is a horrible one to experience. These situations are even worse if you had no idea that it was coming.

So what to do when you get dumped?

Now there's a lot of people on the internet giving advice about what to do when you get dumped. And no doubt you've heard a lot of things from your friends as well. "Plenty more fish in the sea" is a phrase often chucked out by well-meaning friends in these situations but I'm assuming you're reading this because you're not interested in the other fish and instead you want to get your girlfriend back.

What to do when you get dumped - your first move

So not sure what to do when you get dumped? Well first off you want to cut off contact with your girlfriend. You need to do this for the benefit of both of you. From your point of view, you need to clear your head, think about whether this girl is the right one for you. Is she worth fighting for? You've also taken a big hit, like you've been in the ring with Mike Tyson, so step back, take a seat in your corner for a minute, let your team (i.e. your friends) build you back up again. Spend some time with them, go out and enjoy yourself, though do not fall in to the trap of getting drunk and calling up your ex, that will not help things at all!

What to do when you get dumped - be smarter than most men

Most men who don't know what to do when they get dumped will constantly call and text their ex.

From her point of view, if she's broken up with you, can you see that the last thing she wants is you trying to contact her all the time? The more you try to contact her, the further she'll push you away. This will make her think that you're needy and desperate and will convince her that she made the right decision to break up with you. Also, if you keep phoning her, she knows that you're thinking about her and she knows that you haven't moved on. Do you see how much power you're giving her by doing this?

So, you want to be smart and do the opposite. She's broken up with you but she may not be 100% sure that she made the right decision. If she doesn't hear from you, I guarantee she will think about you and wonder what you're doing? How's he coping? Has he moved on? Does he miss me? Has he found a new girl? Did I make the right decision to break up with him or did I rush in to it? Can you see how this works in your favour?

What to do when you get dumped - break the pattern

During this time you want to get yourself in good shape for when you do see your ex girlfriend again, once again we can use the analogy of a boxer preparing for a big fight (though I need you to promise me that you're not going to fight with your girlfriend!).

So, let's start with appearance. You want to be looking good when she next sees you. Now, not everyone can look like Brad Pitt but that's not important. The main thing is that you look the best that you can. So now's a good time to go through your wardrobe, bring in some new threads if you've got the cash - you don't have to spend a lot of money here, it's always worth checking out charity shops/thrift stores as well as EBay. If you're short of ideas, pick up a copy of GQ or Men's Health to get an idea of the possibilities. The idea is to make yourself look and feel good.

The other psychological reason for doing this is to break the pattern! There are certain sights and smells that your girlfriend will associate with you and unfortunately she may now associate those things as bad things! So change your haircut (go to a salon and ask for ideas) and change your cologne.

Now you should have a better idea of what to do when you get dumped and in the second part of this article I'll talk you through making that first contact with your ex girlfriend, meeting her face to face and re-igniting your relationship.