So by now, you should have read part one of this 'What to do when you get dumped' article. If not, read that first and then come back to this page.

In the first part I was talking about breaking off all contact with your ex girlfriend for a month and working on improving your appearance. Now it's time to make the next step. Keep reading as I reveal what to do when you get dumped to get your ex back.

What to do when you get dumped - making the first call

Once the month is up, hopefully you're feeling good, feeling confident and ready to make that step to contact your ex. So, in terms of picking a time to call, try to do it when your ex is likely to be able to talk in private (for example, it may not be the best thing to call her whilst she's at work).

Keep the call short and keep it light. Don't get in to the hows and whys of the break-up. Don't ask her why she dumped you. Keep the call fun, for instance bring up some happy memories and suggest meeting for coffee or lunch (make sure it's something short). You can put her at ease by saying you only have half an hour or so to meet up. That way, she knows she's not getting involved in anything too heavy. And don't call it a 'date' or say "I need to talk to you" as this may scare her off.

Now pay attention closely here, it's important that you keep the meeting light and fun and make sure you finish it when you said you would. If it was meant to be half an hour, keep to that. You want to leave it so that she wants to see more of you afterwards. Tell her you had a good time and say goodbye. Don't arrange a second meeting unless she initiates it.

What to do when you get dumped - Take her on an emotional rollercoaster

Assuming that you haven't arranged a second date, leave it about a week before contacting her again. When you call her, use the same technique as before i.e. keep the chat light and fun. Ideally you want to arrange a fun activity that you can both do. This is because you're going to step things up a bit! You want to tap into her emotions and ignite the spark again.

I'm going to share with you a nugget of wisdom here.

Ready?

Good. Read on.

You've probably been driving yourself crazy trying to figure out the reasons for the break-up. But very often the reasons we come up with are not the real reasons that caused the end of the relationship.

Passion is the key. If there's still enough passion in the relationship then even the biggest problems can be fixed (yes even an affair can be overcome) but if there is no passion between the two of you anymore then even the tiniest problem will seem like a massive hurdle to overcome.

The quickest way to get your ex back is to concentrate on re-igniting the passion and re-establishing a connection in your relationship.

To put this in to practice, you need to set up an exciting and adventurous date, for instance take her on a rollercoaster ride, go ice skating, take a cocktail-making class or go kayaking. The idea is to create a shared experience that will bond you together.

A small emotionally charged date will go much further towards healing a relationship than having a two hour conversation about why the break-up happened.

I hope this has given you a better idea of what to do when you get dumped and inspired you to put the effort in and use these secrets to get your girlfriend back.