The desperation and emotional turmoil you will feel when you find out your ex-girlfriend is sleeping with someone else is almost unbearable. Here are 3 steps you can take to get your mind off the pain and make a plan to get her back.

1. Distract yourself.

You must find ways to take your mind off the pain and jealousy you will inevitably be feeling when you find out your ex girlfriend is sleeping with another guy. It's natural to be jealous; suddenly, this person you were intimate with, is being intimate with someone else.

If you feel angry and jealous on a regular basis, find a healthy way to take out your anger. Exercise is a healthy and positive distraction that allows you to get your anger out.

The bonus is that it will help you get in shape so you can start dating other girls, or become more attractive to your ex-girlfriend if you want to try to get her back.

2. Realize that the other guy is a rebound.

First off, 90% of post-breakup relationships are "rebounds" that are essentially a way to transition from being in a relationship to being single (or getting back together with an ex). So the guy she's with right now? He's a rebound.

For one thing, you don't know if they're actually sleeping together or what it's like for them. Odds are it is nothing like what you had with your ex-girlfriend because the two of you have a much deeper emotional bond.

In some cases she may feel some emotional attachment to the rebound as well, but more than likely, you are still very much on her mind.

3. Accept that the future is always unknown.

It's impossible to say for sure whether or not you will get her back in the future. But the chances of getting together again are about 88% higher IF you learn to let her have the space she needs.

She will HUGELY value you allowing her this time and space. You are giving her the freedom she needs to "test the waters" and grow as a person.

And by the way, while she's sleeping with another guy, you should be off spending time with other women - or your friends, or whomever you wish. Your life belongs to you and you alone now. Take advantage of this time to experiment and grow, so that if life circumstances bring you and your ex back together, you will have more to share. More to talk about. New bonds to create, because you've spent this time becoming a richer person in spirit and mind.

Ultimately, you should have a plan in mind, if you want to get her back after she's finished having the rebound relationship. In addition, you should be thinking about what you really want. Examine your past with her. Is getting back together truly what will make you happy?

If so, you can develop a strategy to do so. But make sure, before you act out of desperation, that you genuinely want to reconnect with her. Take a close look at how things were between you, how she made you feel, and how you could improve your relationship if the two of you hook up again.