This Article is About
guilt trip
thinking about things
favorite music
whole lot
What To Say To Your Ex To Get Him Back
Join 1000's of Authors at StreetArticles Today!

What to Say to Your Ex to Get Him Back

If you're with someone for a long enough time, they become a fixture in your life. After a breakup (especially an angry, messy one) you can end up desperate to talk to him again, and bring him back into your life.

What a lot of people don't realize, however, is that there are words to get him back that they should be using... and a whole lot of words that will send him running in the other direction.

To start with, “Goodbye” is very rarely actually “Goodbye.” You and your ex will end up talking again, and you need to be prepared. The first thing you need is to eliminate the following phrases from your interactions:

  • “I've been thinking about things, and I just wanted to say...”
  • “I didn't get a chance to tell you that...”
  • “Things just haven't been the same...”

Or any other variations thereof. You might think that showing your ex how much you love him by showing him how much losing him has hurt you is a good way to bring him back, but it's essentially a guilt trip.

Besides, no man wants to be with someone who's emotionally blackmailed him into a relationship. Not only are these not words to get him back, they'll end up showing him that your life revolves around the breakup, and make him lose interest in you.

So, what should you say, instead? The key here is to act relaxed and happy, even if you aren't necessarily feeling it. If you can fake it until you make it, your ex will be left wondering how you were able to recover so quickly and easily, and jealous that you've been able to move on with your life.

Any words to get him back should be light and casual, and avoid delving into any topics that might steer the conversation toward your breakup. Remember, the key is to stay positive here, and remember that any man should be lucky to count himself in your inner circle. Try sticking to topics like:

  • Any new hobbies you've picked up.
  • Your job.
  • Your pets.
  • Your favorite music and TV shows.
  • Any other topics that would be appropriate for a friendly, casual chat.

These words to get him back might seem a little backward when you're gunning for a way to have your relationship back the way it was as soon as possible, but they're important. The key here is to intrigue your ex and create and air of mystery-- by staying casual, he'll be left wondering what's going through your mind, and naturally drawn to your positivity.

He'll end up wanting to talk to you more often, and come up with little excuses to see what you're up to now. Even though they might not result in the kind of emotionally-heavy conversation that you're hoping to have with your ex, these words to get him back will slowly rekindle his interest in you.

The question 'What to say to your ex to get him back?' won't bother you much once you follow the tips which are given in this article.

Street Talk

No comments present
You May Also Like
How To Attract Your Ex Boyfriend Back - Superb Tricks!
After a breakup, neither of you will be able to think rationally about the relationship for weeks, so this is the time for space and reflection, and when the time eventually comes to start the process of winning him back, there are some very big dos and don'ts to follow!…
By: Charlotte Jane in  Relationships  >  Reconnecting   Jul 20, 2012  
  Likes: 4

What Not To Do After A Break Up If You Want To Get Your Ex Back
Most of the time we concentrate on what we should do after a break up to get our ex's back. It is a good idea to think about what you shouldn't be doing after a break up too. Lots of people make grave errors in judgement in the days and…
By: Charlotte Jane in  Relationships  >  Conflict   May 10, 2013  
  Likes: 2

Are You Taking Responsibility For Your Life?
Wealth, abundance and the associated emotions of joy, happiness and creative imagination are all an insdie job. Meaning: These things derive from your innermost being and not through your outside circumstances. The moment you start taking responsibility for your state of being you have the chance to attract wealth and…
  Likes: 0

The Futility Of Guilt - Why it Should Be Banished
There are broadly two kinds of guilt trip. The one taken after felonious acts, when the lives of others are seriously and negatively affected and the petty guilt trip which is non-productive and injurious to the self. How often have you heard people admitting to feeling guilty about a sharp…
By: Karen Baker in  Self Improvement  >  Happiness   Jan 02, 2012  
  Likes: 0

A Little White Lie
A very interesting thing happens to the human psyche when guilt sets in and the conscious mind seems to automatically want to make things right by what we know as a guilt trip. There you are trying to put a little white lie behind you and in the act of…
By: Ronald Colona in  Writing and Speaking  >  Writing   Aug 07, 2013  
  Likes: 0

Being Single Vs In A Relationship - The Smackdown
"Ding, ding, ding! In the red corner, potential eternal bliss with your heaven sent soul mate, to have beautiful children, build a home and have somebody there for you through tick or thin, in sickness and in health. In the blue corner is a lifetime of freedom from obligation, to…
By: Greg Bilston in  Relationships  >  Reconnecting   May 17, 2012  
  Likes: 1

How to Go to Sleep
Today we are going to discuss GETTING TO SLEEP! How many of us can say that we have had trouble falling asleep at some point in our lives? Probably most of us.... Have you ever been so exhausted, fall into bed but have your mind still racing - you lie…
By: Lauren2 in  Health and Fitness  >  Mind Body Spirit   Mar 16, 2012  
  Likes: 1

Signs He Is Serious About Marrying You
A lot of women are having problems with knowing if a guy is ready to commit to her in marriage or if he is just not interested in seeing the relationship reach that point. Due to the fact that men are not as direct as women with their emotions, they…
By: Mohale in  Relationships  >  Dating   Oct 05, 2012  
  Likes: 3

Dreaming And Living
We often hear people talking and discussing on how to live their dream. Sure we all have a right to dream, but we also need to put in efforts to realize that. Simply dreaming and wishing is only going to let our dreams remain a dream and never get to…
By: Milos Obrenovic in  Self Improvement  >  Motivation   Feb 19, 2012  
  Likes: 3

What Texts Should You Send To Your Ex? - These Ones!
Hoping for a quick fix to squash your breakup in its tracks and get your relationship back on track? There's some bad news. There isn't one. No one text can repair all of the damage that a breakup inevitably causes. When a relationship splits apart, it causes a lot of…
By: Isabella Rose in  Relationships  >  Communication   Feb 01, 2013  
  Likes: 0

Great Things About Having An Internet Business
When you work for someone else you are usually given hours to work and break times for lunch and if you are lucky, two breaks in between. You have to be at work when they tell you to be there or it could cause problems for you. There is the…
By: Scott15 in  Internet and Businesses Online   Sep 20, 2013  
  Likes: 0

Making Your Ex Miss You With Human Psychology
Making your ex miss you is a powerful tool in your arsenal for getting them back. The trouble is that most people get the steps very wrong. This is because they act on emotions rather than common sense. This is entirely natural after a break up and very human. However,…
By: Charlotte Jane in  Relationships  >  Reconnecting   Mar 06, 2013  
  Likes: 3

Conflict Brings Out the Best And Worst In People
Self Preservation The primal urge for self preservation is often linked to an array of emotions and thoughts, each juxtaposed in the aspect of good and evil. The subjectivity of these often conservative and radical actions, as individuals’ enter an increasingly volatile era of insecurity and hardship. From the ambitious…
By: George Siladi in  Relationships  >  Conflict   Jun 06, 2016  
  Likes: 0

My Heart is Breaking Because My Boyfriend Dumped Me – What Should I Now?
Your heart is breaking because your boyfriend dumped you. You have no idea what your next move should be. Should you try to get your boyfriend back or should you just hide away from the world a little while – until the pain goes away? What should you do now?…
By: T Dub Jackson in  Relationships  >  Conflict   May 23, 2011  
  Likes: 2

Get Back At Ex By Being Nice - 4 Ways To Get Back At Them With Kindness
Dealing with an ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend can be accomplished in many different ways. Some people are rude and vindictive because they want their ex to feel and and suffer. And there are those who choose to be nice in order to get back at their ex. If you…
By: Garry2 in  Relationships  >  Conflict   Dec 27, 2011  
  Likes: 1

Article Views: 1881    Report this Article