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wife evelyn
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domestic violence
wide receiver
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withdrawals
love and respect
Why Can't We Get Along #1
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Why Can\'t We Get Along #1

A few days ago, all the news media carried the story of football wide receiver, Chad Johnson and his wife Evelyn, who argued about a receipt showing condoms, this matter escalated into a complaint to the police of chad head butting his wife. Which resulted in him being arrested by police and charged with domestic violence.

It was not long afterward that his wife filed for divorce, and then the withdrawals of society's superstars benefits followed. He got fired from the Miami Dolphin football team, his reality show cancelled, I assumed he may have lost other perks he had also. It appears that when an athlete makes a mistake or breaks a law, it seems everybody wants their pound of flesh.

With less that two month in this marriage, you have to wonder if this couple was ready for this commitment. When you look at this story from the surface, everything looks bad for Chad, and it appeared that if everything is true, he is a bad guy. He lost his cool, and he could not walk away.

But does a receipt of condoms means that a man, is fooling around or intends too? Or does it mean that his wife never trusted him? If she did not trust him, why did she marry him? This type of mistrust and anger is a serious problem for a new marriage, and it seems that this would not have lasted, even if this event did not occur.

When you marry a new bride, and you are in love and respect her, there should not a desire for other women, your love and feeling should only be for her. If you are having a physical relationship with other women, you are not in love with your wife, and absolutely not ready for marriage.

Now lets look at his wife, was she really in love with him. Why would a woman marry a man with a short fuse? or could it be that she became aware of his weakness after tying the knot, and tried to find a way out of this marriage that was heading for disaster anyway. Not all men know how to deal with a hostile confrontational woman, they lack the knowledge and foresight of predicting the outcome of human verbal barrage, which could be a trap, set for the unaware.

But let us assume that this was a trap being set for poor Chad. But is it possible that the calypso song, which states, the woman is smarter than the man in every way, could be true. In part two of this series, we will expand this story, with different characters..


Street Talk

Hanging chads, hmmm... interesting!

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  about 1 decade ago

Very interesting. I am looking forward to part 2

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  about 1 decade ago

Thanks for your comment Shawn, I have already publish part 2,3,and 4.

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  about 1 decade ago

OK< off to find them then!

  
  about 1 decade ago

Great article Alfred....I often wonder, why do people get marry! It's very clear that Chad and Evelyn were not in love. Just because a receipt was found showing that condoms were purchased doesn't confirm that he was guilty of adultery .

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  about 1 decade ago

It appears that we are in agreement on this article, thanks for your comment.

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  about 1 decade ago

And to top off what everyone else has said... You have me eagerly awaiting the next Edition!!! Great Job, Alfred :-)

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  about 1 decade ago

Hello Sherry, thanks for your comment.

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  about 1 decade ago

Great, Alfred! You remind me of the Sherlock Holmes stories--when a person gets a bunch of information, that doesn't mean that everything is explained--it just means we have a part of the whole story. Plus, celebrities may be tempted to marry for many reasons that have nothing to do with a serious marriage--sad, but still sometimes true. And on these reality shows, the smart directors seem to put two celebrities under a spotlight--which makes them both vie for the attention of the camera, and the audience, and even for 'street cred' or some such nonsense. These media swarms rarely talk about the many behind-the-scenes people that MUST be there--agents, managers, lawyers, family that doesn't sign any release, and on and on. So these media-coverage events are guaranteed to skew our responses--just like a sporting event--we root for one side or the other, we discuss the show, we get involved enough to watch the commercials, et voila!

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  about 1 decade ago

Dear Christopher thanks for your comment.

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  about 1 decade ago

You assume that a man can only love one woman. I do not agree. I think it is possible and goes on all the time where a man loves more than one woman and vice a versa! The love felt between a man and a woman does not guarantee fidelity. I have been divorced for several years, but I still love my ex-wife. That does not detract from me loving my current wife. Oh and there is a big difference between love and lust! LOL That's a whole chapter and book in itself! Great article. (A few typos, but great article, Alfred!

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  about 1 decade ago

Although we do not agree on everything, there are some points that we agree on, thanks for your comment.

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  about 1 decade ago
Meredith  

Wise words Mr. DeCosta for both sides. Very good article, good information.

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  about 1 decade ago

Hello Meredith, thank for your comment.

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  about 1 decade ago
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