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The Test
We do not know if the daughter left home and attended the party, but what we do know is a few days later, I listen to one of the pastor sermons and he said, "everything if fine in his home, and he did not assault his daughter".
The pastor may have won that battle, but for those who have a lot too loose, they will always be tested. This is why having wisdom is so important, it allows you to see events in their embryonic stage, before they happen, thus giving you the opportunity to defeat them.
In life, everybody goes through tribulations , but those who have given their life to their faith, they will always be tested. So what to do when colleagues or people attack you with words or do things that displease you. The first thing you should do is control your emotion or anger, if you cannot do this, you have already lost stage one of this battle.
How To Control Anger
We have a basic understanding of how anger developes into argument in a relationship. An accusation , in a tone or pitch that makes a person or mate unhappy. If this communication continues in an aggressive way, a person can become angry.
So what to do? Leave the company of the person, and end communication, answering the person will only escalate the matter, which could lead to a verbal or physical fight.
If you don't leave at this stage, shouting, cursing and physical violence or bodily hurt will occur, its important that you do not let an argument get past stage one, because in trying to solve the reason for the argument, the other person may become more hostile.
If you are dealing with a relationship problem, you may need a referee, to sit down with both parties and try to figure out why you are having these outburst of anger, because the person who initiated these problems, will not admit or believe they are at fault.
When you look into relationship problems where there is a lot of argument, and you search the history of the person or each person, you will find the root causes, of the argument really isn't the reason for the outburst.
With some people this could be an event that occurs five years or longer that hasn't been resolved, and because it continues to fester in the person mind, it offers mental hurt. Many people cannot and will not let go of personal issues, which are the major causes of relationship unhappiness.
All very good advice. Walking away before a situation escalates may be difficult at first but gets easier with practice. Thanks Alfred
You make some great points Alfred, leaving anything to fester can't help anyone. Gayle
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