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Why Use No Contact When Trying To Get Her Back?
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Is the no contact rule effective for getting her back after a breakup?  In this article, I'll tell you why the no contact rule works, and how long it takes to have an effect after your breakup.

Why no contact helps

First of all, no contact helps you to escape a state of emotional turmoil and depression after a breakup.  Most people are thrown way out of balance after getting dumped.  When your girlfriend leaves, it's especially tough to deal with the day to day challenges of work, school, or family.

No contact can actually give you the needed time to breathe and rest in this chaotic period. Most people assume that your ex is going to forget about you if you don't go after her right after she's decided to break up with you.

In reality, this isn't true.  Your ex isn't going to forget about you; on the contrary, having a break from each other can often be exactly what you need to refresh your relationship.

So the bottom line is, no contact helps because it lets you get out of the desperate state, calm your mind, and ultimately reconnect with your ex.

How long no contact takes

When you've decided to have a no contact period with your ex, it's ideal to go for 30 days at a minimum when you're implementing it.

30 days is a reasonable amount of time to cease contact with her.  In this time, you'll be able to:

1. Exercise (for physical and mental benefits)

2. Hang out with friends

3. Set new goals at work

4. Tie up any hanging projects

5. Eat healthy

6. Make any dietary, academic, or business changes you've been wanting to make

Basically, you have a chance now to focus entirely on yourself.  I know you want to go straight back into the arms of your ex-girlfriend, but you need this time to realize your own self-sufficiency.

Often, we just get so set in a pattern of being with someone that we forget our own capabilities.  By going no contact for 30 days or more, you'll come to realize that you can stand on your own two feet again.

This will give you huge positive mental boosts - which are ultimately quite helpful when you want to actually get her back. 

So ultimately, you need a no contact period to get your ex girlfriend to become receptive to you again, because you won't be desperately clinging to her after the breakup.  Avoiding desperation is hugely helpful in reconnecting during a relationship conflict.  Not only will you avoid desperation, but you'll be happier, healthier, and more sound in mind and body after you've taken this time to heal after a breakup. 


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