Even if the two of you were fighting, a breakup is still very stressful and not something anyone wants to go through. What makes it worse is when you still have feelings for your ex and you want to get back together. Unfortunately, we aren’t really taught how to win back an ex. So that pretty much leaves us to figure it out alone. What you need is a solid plan to win your ex back.

Emotions are running high for both of you right now and it is essential for you to calm down and relax before you try to win an ex back. Letting your emotions get the best of you right now could ruin any chance you might have of getting back together. In order to develop a solid plan to win back your ex, you will have to be calm, focused, and logical.

What I find best for me is to give myself some time from all the drama. It helps to clear my head and helps me develop a plan much better. How much time that takes depends on you, but you should wait until you feel in a completely different state of mind. Otherwise you run the risk of pushing your ex even further away, and that is not what you want!

You need to take care of yourself during this time. You will be emotional at first and the temptation to not eat, binge eat, mope around, and cry will definitely be there. But you have to keep it together. Eat right, make sure you exercise, get out of the house and try to have some fun. You can’t win back an ex by being a basket case, now can you?

Now that you are less emotional, you should try to look back on the relationship and figure out where things went wrong. Look at yourself, deep down, and realize which issues were possibly caused by you. Things you did or said, or just a general attitude. Then work on fixing those things. How could you and your ex compromise to make sure whatever issues there were don’t have to be issues anymore? The more things you can troubleshoot and have a plan for fixing, the better.

Once both of you have had time to calm down and you have a plan to fix the problems, it’s time to call your ex. Ask him or her to meet with you and talk. Make sure the conversation stays low-key and not emotional. Explain to them what you have discovered during your time apart and how you think things could be fixed. Then let them know you would like to try the relationship again, taking things slow and easy, of course.

You can do this! Keep yourself together, with your emotions in check, figure a solution to the problems, and you will soon find a way to win back an ex.