After a break up, it is possible that you are now regretting that your relationship came to an end. If this is the case, you may want to consider trying to get back together with your ex-boyfriend, and giving the relationship another go.

However, winning back an ex is not always going to be easy, particularly if he is not sure that he wants to have you in his life again.

The first thing that you must do is allow him time to get over the break up. Don’t try to contact him straight away; whether you chose to end the relationship or he did, there will be painful emotions involved and talking to you is likely to make these worse.

Allow him at least a month to get over the most painful aspects of the break up, and after this length of time he may also begin to miss having you in his life.

After several weeks, you could try to call him and ask if the two of you could meet. Choose a place that is public, such as a coffee shop.

That way, you are both free to leave if the situation becomes too uncomfortable, rather than being in your house or his. It also means that you are not committed to staying there for the length of a meal, as you would be if you went to a restaurant.

If he does not want to meet you, then consider whether getting back together is really the best option for the two of you.

Chances are, during the break up, you will both have said some extremely hurtful comments, and he may not be ready to forgive you for these yet.

Don’t forget that you will also need to focus on yourself during this time. To win back your ex-boyfriend, one of the best things you can do is to remind him of why he fell for you in the first place.

Part of this is making sure you look fantastic, even if putting effort into your appearance is not really what you feel like doing at the moment.

Take the time to get your hair or nails done, buy some new clothes, and make use of that gym membership you pay for but never use. Exercising regularly will help you to feel better, which will also help you to be more confident.

Make sure you go out with your friends and enjoy yourself. If your ex happens to see you while you are out, this is a great time to show him what he is missing.

You may find yourself that you are getting the attention other men, which can actually help you in your attempt to win back your ex-boyfriend.

He may start to notice you slipping out of his reach, and jealous feelings may begin to emerge. If he contacts you after seeing you out one night, then despite the break up, he still views you as his girlfriend.

Winning your man back can be done if you are prepared to put in the time and effort to convince him that it is worthwhile.